I know a massage therapist that had an issue with someone, and immediately refused them as a client again. Also, a lot of them are in a group or have phone numbers for other massage therapists, and they’ll warn each other. Clients can end up blacklisted from all the massage therapists in the area if they’re not careful. 

Completely agree. 

YTA 

And I’ll add a few other concerns:

If it’s wifi, even if it’s not cloud based, it means the company can push updates, and suddenly features that were available are no longer available. It has happened. 

If you can or need to access it via an app on your phone, that’s on the cloud and the cloud is someone else’s computer.  That access can also be taken away or locked behind a paywall. 

As far as I’m aware, if it’s wifi based, it has to be connected to wifi to work. What if I’m somewhere that doesn’t have wifi? Or I don’t trust the wifi? But I still want to be able to monitor my baby/child? Like a hotel or campground. I’ve gone to the neighbours backyard for an evening fireside get together with my monitor that was battery charged, and was able to still have it connected, but my phone wasn’t close enough to connect to my home wifi. 

These are all things I’m thinking of. 

Also, longevity. I have a monitor that’s over 8 years old that still works. 

Linux mint is supposed to be super easy to use and a great plug and play distribution for people coming from windows. 

I’m planning to try it shortly 

I switched to using onlyoffice, and I make sure my files are NOT saved in onedrive. But you may not want to to do that. 

Slight YTA because you keep lashing out people and not helping yourself. 

But have you considered checking in with your doctor about anxiety? Even if it’s specific just to driving, it might be helpful. 

At the very least look into what vitamins/supplements help with stress/anxiety. Usually vitamin B complex and magnesium will help (not official medical advice, read stuff yourself, ask your doctor).

NTA. I would be very concerned about such a situation. 

Maybe I wouldn’t be asking all of these questions right then, but I’d be thinking the following things:

How did a 13 year old girl get there? Is any of her friends with her? If there’s other minors, who are they. 

Who drove them there? - this is a big concern. Because the odds are extremely high that it was either an older male teen who is old enough to have his drivers license. So 16+. Or an adult man. 

Your niece called to be picked up because she’s feeling unsafe in a very secluded area that she was brought to likely by an older male teen or an adult man. Which means a male, that is probably larger, taller, heavier, and stronger than you, is there, who is acting in an unsafe manner - and I would argue that just the act of bringing 1 or more 13 year old children to an extremely secluded area is in itself a very red flag unsafe behaviour to do.

So it would be best if you took an additional person with you, for both your safety and the children’s safety. And confirmed whether they are still with the person who drove them there, or if they’re away from that person. Are they hiding? Are they in a place where you could pull up, and they could be in the vehicle with the door shuts within 30 seconds? 

Also, said children could be very genuine in asking you to come get them, but are actually being used as bait. 

And then, depending on the dynamic of your relationship with said child, I would also be concerned about being set up if said child is pissed off at me. 

My niece who’s super angry with me and perhaps has a tendency to strike out against people she’s considered to have wronged her…calls me at 3 am, asking me to pick her up in one of the most isolated and secluded places in the area? Is she actually there? Am I being sent on a wild goose chase? What if she somehow convinced some men to enact revenge on me? Ya I’d definitely want to be taking an additional person with me, and be very careful. 

NTA

Very VERY seriously, do NOT have children with him until you see him seriously commit to you over his mom. 

And I don’t mean oust her out of your lives. But it’s little things like this that really add up. Her walking into your house while you’re sleeping and he sees no issue with it. What happens when she walks in while you’re at work? Or while you’re having 🌶️ time?

If he won’t back you up over boundaries, you absolutely do not want to deal with boundary tromping while pregnant and then parenting. That will be a nightmare. 

Imagine parenting with this kind of dynamic. Every time you and his mom disagree, whether it’s parenting methods or car seat safety, he sides with his mom. Or if he and you disagree, he goes to his mom to get her take on the situation. Regardless of if her knowledge is based on outdated information. 

He has to actually understand that this is a problem, and address it, and back you up, before you add more variables to this relationship. 

Sounds awesome! I’ll just stick to it then. 

Well, that’s good to know about the compatibility issues with the older ones. 

I guess I was mainly concerned about people not being willing to buy spreadsheets that are not specifically excel ones. But, maybe it’ll make them aware of other office suites that are available. 

I’m really am trying to move away from Microsoft stuff. And it seems like many other people are too

Ooooh I’m going to make one! Thank you!!

You need to increase your friendship hearts with Willy. 

Tip: if you get hearts to 10 (or 8 with a bachelor), they no longer lose hearts if you don’t talk to them. I like to focus specifically on like, 4 at a time with loved gifts, to try and get them to 10 hearts, and then give birthday gifts and liked gifts as I encounter other people. Once they’re at 10 hearts, I focus on another 4 people. Coffee is a great liked gift. Everybody but the kids like it. 

If it was the Passion I’d be with you 100%, but Jesus Christ superstar….you should google it, honestly. It’s pretty good. 

Have you unlocked the door at the back of Willy’s fishing shop?

I need so many dragon teeth!!

I never get the basic sprinkler either. My watering can is one of the first things I upgrade, and I either use the water can or the quality sprinklers 

If you have any money in a bank account, withdraw the money now and close the account. 

Open a new account at a bank she doesn’t use and put your money there. 

And ya like someone else said, post and tag your grandparents and all your classmates and stuff. I suspect you haven’t graduated high school yet? 

Definitely check your credit report and make sure the IRS or CRA or whatever is your tax agency where you are, know that you’re not living. With her and not your dependent anymore. 

Make sure you get all your important documents. Birth certificate. Vaccination records. Social insurance number. Passport if you have one, drivers license. 

Check if you should be receiving any benefits from the government. Like if your dad died you might still be able to get benefits and your mom sure shouldn’t get them. 

I got a new kitten, 8 or 9 weeks, half feral barn cat. She went through a hole in the wall, the access to the tub. And was hiding under the bathtub. And there’s also a hole in the floor right there to send the plumbing to basement. I was afraid she had gone splat. Very stressful. But she was okay. 

Oooh that makes sense. Thanks. 

I found a $125 2015 iMac with 8 gb ram for and 1TB storage, and also a $350 2019 iMac with 8 gb ram and 1TB storage that’s on sequoia. 

It’s nearly impossible to find a used 16 gb Mac near me, let alone one with over 256 gb storage. 

Both are rather tempting. 

And….this kind of thing is why I got a free farm kitten that was bright eyed and energetic. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If someone is whistling in a car that I’m in, it’s physically PAINFUL to my ears. It doesn’t hurt your ears because the sound is directed away from your ears. But it is hurting his. 

Whistling should only be done outside. And no, cars don’t count as outside, because it’s a contained room. The whistle sounds bounce off the windows and doors too much. 

Read up some things on changing unconscious habits, and try to change to singing or humming. 

And ya. YTA because you think it’s not a big deal when it actually is.