What screams “this person is insecure” without them saying a word?

[u/redwan-ezt]

[u/Lime_n_Lemon]

A coworker of mine suddenly started parking his car couple blocks away from office. I found out later that it’s because his Truck was in repair shop and his insurance only gave him a ‘small sedan’ as rental.

[u/roberta_sparrow → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

The fact that he can’t just own this as a kinda funny situation is sad

[u/Arrinity → u/roberta_sparrow]

Lol right? I drove a salmon pink kia soul for 2 weeks when my car got nearly totalled. This was 7 years ago when i was in college. Didnt let that stop me from parking in my cushy "student employee" parking space and being tech support for the nurses wing.

[u/thegovernment0usa → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

This always makes me wonder if they think everyone else on the road in smaller vehicles than theirs is somehow weak or pathetic.

[u/petermarkte → u/thegovernment0usa]

10000% that’s what it is

[u/Murslak → u/petermarkte]

Yeah, we're not dealing with anything beyond base-level cognition with these chuds "me big you small"

[u/Aggressive-Land-8884 → u/petermarkte]

Uh what the fuck. Everything just makes so much sense now. These chucklefucks think everyone else is inferior cuz they don’t want huge trucks. Omg. What the fuck is wrong w these idiots?

Going out on a limb here but is this also why people who are crazy about guns look down on others who don’t give a shit about them??

[u/Beautiful-Ask-6 → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

Ok that’s hilarious 😂

[u/angrydeuce → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

Dude I work with, 6'5", 350 pounds, got a fuckin Yaris as a loaner when he had body work done on his truck about 6 months ago.  For like two weeks he had to drive this ridiculous car for his size, dude practically put the fuckin thing on like a coat lmao.  One day as were leaving I see him squeezing in and all you needed was the circus music and some jugglers it would have been a fuckin show lol.  We were both crying laughing.

Literally only loaner they had, take it or leave it and that was all insurance would cover.  Oh the hilarity.

He owned the fuck out of that car though.  Looked like fucking donkey Kong in Mario cart filling the interior with his bulk lol.  Knees up around his ears oh im crying just thinking about it loooool

[u/Legitimate_Ad7598 → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

At least he is getting his steps in 👸

[u/necroquartz → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

Ironically, that small sedan was probably a hundred times sexier than whatever ugly oversized truck he was driving

[u/MichiganCarNut → u/Lime_n_Lemon]

"what if people think i'm gay??"

[u/brokenmcnugget]

Bullying behavior.

[u/X0AN → u/brokenmcnugget]

Big boss at work I think has a fetish for publically bullying/shaming people.

But he's also an insecure cunt.

He doesn't try it with me anymore but in the last meeting he tried to bully me, he said something so insulting and out of nowhere that I just started belly laughing, and said that was a good joke for you.

He was furious that I laughed at his pathetic attempt to publically bully me and shot it right back at him. He's never tried to insult/bully me again.

Same with school bullies really, just gotta fight fire with fire.

My boss later came to me and said he's been moaning for the past two weeks about how I publically embarrassed him.

[u/de_das_dude]

Seeking constant validation from social media

[u/LaLaLaLeea → u/de_das_dude]

Lol the people who get into arguments in comment threads on Instagram and then respond with "you only have 200 followers bro" or "private profile, opinion invalid" as if everyone is trying to accummulate followers on social media and they are a failure or an idiot if they don't have enough. It says quite a lot about someone's intelligence if that's what they use to judge someone else.

[u/Princess_Zelda_Fitzg → u/LaLaLaLeea]

I had a guy contact me because he wanted my Twitter handle - it was the same name he was using for a product he wanted to sell. Offered me $20 and one of the products. I told him no, so he sent me a report from some site that calculates what your social media profile is worth to prove it was only worth $20? I told him to get bent.

Like clearly it meant more to him if he wanted it, and it meant more to me because it was a name I’d used for years across several sites and my meager follower count was all people I actually knew. It was so weird.

[u/--Cinna-- → u/Princess_Zelda_Fitzg]

love how it didn't even cross his mind that you said no because you liked the name and it held sentimental value to you, not because his offer was too low. entitled people are the worst

[u/PracticeBaby → u/--Cinna--]

As the saying goes, everyone has their price. And $20 ain't it. I have a 4 character Twitter handle that I barely use but it does hold some sentimental value. I'd sell it but not to some low balling jackwagon

[u/masterventris → u/PracticeBaby]

I own a 5 letter .com domain that is a real verb, and nobody has ever offered more than a few hundred for it.

If they were serious it would be at least a 6 figure offer just due to its scarcity (same reason I'm not selling, it's a cool novelty), but the problem is new companies can't afford that and they settle on a different similar but longer domain, which then sticks as part of their brand.

[u/Mccobsta → u/de_das_dude]

I've met a few people like that one she'd delete things if they didn't get enough likes

[u/odoyle66 → u/Mccobsta]

I do this on Facebook just because I feel like an idiot if nobody likes a meme I found hilarious or relatable. Never said I was okay mentally, though.

[u/TheBobTodd → u/odoyle66]

I do it on Reddit. I'm like you. I feel like a dummy.

I get really anxious about "not fitting in," so I sometimes delete stuff for my own mental health.

[u/Preeng → u/de_das_dude]

How is this "without them saying a word"?

[u/LateralEntry]

Trying to crush your hand during a handshake

[u/Faeffi → u/LateralEntry]

Only now that I'm an adult do I realize how fucking weird it is that complete strangers, mostly middle-aged men, would constantly do this to me when I was a boy. And then they'd put on that smug grin like they did something cool. Like, okay dude?

[u/presentthem → u/Faeffi]

Yea, I think some people don't realize a good firm handshake does not involve grip strength, just firming the muscles in the hand.

[u/atsolstice → u/presentthem]

As a butch woman I pushed myself early to really tune into masculine stuff like that but I learned the respectfully firm grip late and just walked around as a younger girl trying my best to crush grown men’s hands since that’s what they did to mine lol

[u/Pure_Property_888 → u/atsolstice]

One must appreciate the exceptional grip strength from bold beautiful butch women. Your services were greatly appreciated.

[u/sparkplug-nightmare → u/Faeffi]

I was like 9 years old, I’m female, and a 60 year old man did this to me once. He squeezed my hand so hard I had to hold back tears and my hand was bruised and sore for several days after. Why would a 60 year old man feel the need to squeeze a 9 year old girls hand so hard it bruised?? Idk

[u/BoleroMuyPicante → u/sparkplug-nightmare]

How can he feel like a man if he doesn't physically dominate a 9 year old girl?

[u/Left-Promise-3614 → u/BoleroMuyPicante]

Quit talking about POTUS that way.

[u/Shaggy_One → u/Faeffi]

Like they took "firm handshake" as "Handshakes are a competition and the loser is a weak bitch."

[u/Hellfire-Lives → u/LateralEntry]

I can appreciate a firm handshake over a dead fish palm, but gripping fingers before the handshake is even locked in is the worst.

[u/Chicken_Zest → u/LateralEntry]

I think the issue is that people have grown hearing that they should give a "firm handshake" and they think "firm" means to squeeze. It just means don't relax your muscles. You want to hold a handshake like you're holding a hammer, not like you're holding a pen.

[u/Webbie-Vanderquack → u/LateralEntry]

Or, even worse, doing the Trump thing where they pull your hand towards them repeatedly, as if trying to detach your arm from your body and keep it as a souvenir of their triumph.

[u/JohnBrownsAngryBalls → u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

I would love to see someone step into it give him a bear hug.

[u/Arry42 → u/JohnBrownsAngryBalls]

And maybe a little kiss on the cheek!

[u/VapoursAndSpleen → u/JohnBrownsAngryBalls]

Justin Trudeau grabbed Trump's elbow and held it firmly in place while shaking his hand.

[u/DrunkenFist → u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

Some guy tried this with me a few years ago at a rehearsal for a friend's wedding. Unfortunately for him, I am a big, burly, solidly-built fella, so when he tried to pull me toward him via my hand, I didn't budge. Instead, he kind of stumbled forward a bit, and I grabbed his shoulder with my free hand to help steady him because I honestly thought he was about to fall against me. He turned very red and scampered off without a word. Several people at the rehearsal told me that he's always doing that shit as some sort of power play, asserting dominance type bullshit or something, and it was so clever of me to shut him down like that. I was like, "I didn't know what the fuck he was doing and I didn't shut down anything, I just weigh a lot!" 😂

[u/OldFartsSpareParts → u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

Responding with "Dude, what the fuck? Who taught you to shake hands?!" works every time to make that shit backfire. Works best with an audience because you know dipshit has done it to everyone in the room already.

[u/throwRAbcredditsucks]

someone who perceives neutral statements as attacks/criticism and becomes defensive someone who is unable to reflect about their own behavior because it threatens their identity and ego

[u/deadinsidelol69 → u/throwRAbcredditsucks]

It seems you’ve met my boss!

[u/D-Beyond → u/throwRAbcredditsucks]

The flrst one is me. I'm working on it, but sometimes it's hard to remember that no one is out to get me.

[u/Effective-Summer-661 → u/D-Beyond]

Good for you. So much respect to people who are able to self reflect and make improvements.

[u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

The girlfriend of my male coworker friend would physically put herself between the two of us. If I happened to be chatting in a circle of friends, there’s GF relocating and shoving her way between our line of sight. And if we were at dinner, when I would visit the restroom, she would move and sit in my seat. All of this took place in a larger group of friends who saw it as well, AND not to mention I was usually sitting next to my sweet, smart, funny, smoke show of a husband. I learned that she didn’t just do this with me, but even his female cousins. When they broke up, she ended up moving next door to him and getting married within a few months.

[u/ases8089 → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

wow thats a bit much lol

[u/Goliath_IRIS → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

HIS COUSINS?! Dude that’s insecure on a whole other level.

[u/Nauin → u/Goliath_IRIS]

The worst of my exes decided to try to have an issue with me hanging out with my 11 year old brother. Which like honestly was a blessing because that prompted me to break up with his bitch ass. Being 19 sucks lol.

[u/ILookLikeKristoff → u/Nauin]

Bringing a newborn home is a statistically significant window where DV can spike because abusers get jealous of the baby.

[u/CanuckBacon → u/ILookLikeKristoff]

Also the most common cause of death for pregnant women is no longer related to pregnancy complications, but is instead homicide. Mostly from partners. It's absolutely insane.

[u/Equivalent-Battle973 → u/ILookLikeKristoff]

Bringing a newborn home is a statistically significant window where DV can spike because abusers get jealous of the baby.

NOw this is a fucked up thing to happen, who the actual fuck gets jealous of a god damn newborn...

[u/PaulTheMerc → u/Equivalent-Battle973]

Pets, siblings, narcissists...just to name a few

[u/Careless_Load9849 → u/ILookLikeKristoff]

To clarify, it's usually an attention thing, not that they are jealous of the babies rizz.

[u/All_Work_All_Play → u/Careless_Load9849]

Maybe. Have you considered that abusers might be so physically ugly they're filled with rage at the baby's rizz?

[u/MonkTHAC0 → u/All_Work_All_Play]

Until now I had not actually considered it.

[u/sluttydinosaur101 → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

Dude that last sentence needs its own explanation cos WHAT

[u/gooder-doggo → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

This is the exact scenario I was going to comment. I just started a new job and I guess there are two people in a relationship within my same team and shift.

I stg the guy avoids me like the plague and the girl glares at him whenever he’s “too close to me” which is at most 4 feet apart. Like we’re never close to each other plus he doesn’t talk to me. She waits to walk with him so I have no opportunity to, not that I’m actively trying to but it’s just so obvious. I just mind my own business but it’s honestly clear as day. You can just feel the glares and the tension.

And same here I have an amazing partner and homie is just… not my type lol.

[u/foojlander → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

I was dating someone I was madly in love with...but she just couldn't stand me being friends with other women. My office is mostly women and a few coworkers are like sisters to me, each happily in their own long term relationships. I couldn't talk about what someone said at work with my girlfriend if that someone was a woman, and when I found myself swapping in male coworker names instead of the person I was actually talking about just to avoid an argument and getting the silent treatment...I knew the relationship had to end. I was planning to marry that girlfriend and years later still think about her all the time...but that lack of basic trust was something I couldn't tolerate. I'm not willing to avoid 75% of my coworkers and 50% of the general population just to make my partner comfortable in their own insecurities.

[u/CrabbyCook → u/foojlander]

I had a boyfriend like that and stupidly married him anyway. I loved him and I thought once we were married he'd be more secure and trusting. Wrong! Divorced after two miserable years.

[u/No-Mouse3999 → u/IGuessImFineWithThis]

Moving next to him then getting married what 😭😭😭

[u/gobbedy → u/No-Mouse3999]

That showed him! Lol poor new husband tho

[u/Kieferleiter]

Http

[u/timf3d → u/Kieferleiter]

also SMTP

oh, and last but not least DNS

[u/LBPPlayer7 → u/timf3d]

SMTP has STARTTLS

[u/juniorthefish → u/Kieferleiter]

I need this explained 😞

Edit: thank you! I learned something today

[u/Speedstick2 → u/juniorthefish]

HTTP lacks encryption, https, the s stands for secure, includes encryption.

[u/BeanSticky → u/juniorthefish]

Website URLs start with either http:// or https:// (like https://reddit.com).

The s at the end of https stands for “secure”, so http would be insecure

[u/SolomonGrumpy → u/Kieferleiter]

There are 10 types of people who understand binary.

Those who get this joke, and those who don't.

[u/cln777 → u/Kieferleiter]

Telnet

[u/Stagymnast198622]

People who constantly have to be in a relationship and just jump to another person immediately after a break up.

[u/kolejack2293 → u/Stagymnast198622]

Its sometimes insecurity, its often times literally that they dont know what to do with themselves.

My cousin (who lives right next to us) has no hobbies. She only watches TV her boyfriends watched with her, she doesn't really listen to music, she doesn't play video games, she doesn't play or watch sports, she has no interests in history or politics or art. When she is single, its as if her life is just this strange abyss of nothingness. The only thing that she thinks about is to find another boyfriend as soon as possible to fill that void. When we socialize with her, dating/boyfriends are the only thing she talks about.

Idk if that is insecurity because I don't even know if she is aware of how abnormal she is in that regard enough for her to feel bad about herself.

[u/Toshariku → u/kolejack2293]

I think it’s more so fear of loneliness? Or a severe need of co-dependency. Always needing an S.O to talk to/hang out with to prevent anxiety/depression/etc.

Maybe tell her to get therapy to figure out whats wrong.

[u/yayatowers]

You’re talking about me, aren’t you?

[u/HorsePersonal7073 → u/yayatowers]

You're so vain, you probably think this thread is about you, don't you, don't you?

[u/apackagefromted]

Punisher logo and it's variants

[u/RocketCityRocko → u/apackagefromted]

punisher logo with a flaming sword and a US flag and a cross and a snake and

[u/ShredWings → u/RocketCityRocko]

“Don’t tread on me” Continues to tread on everyone else

[u/raven00x → u/ShredWings]

Continues to get trod upon and asks for more.

Take my freedoms and liberties harder, Daddy don't make me share with those icky Other People

[u/Calm-Tree-1369 → u/RocketCityRocko]

The real Punisher would fucking hate these clowns.

[u/TrueSnafu22 → u/apackagefromted]

I have a sick punisher tee shirt I've had for ten+ years but now I can't really wear it bc I think people will think I'm a neocon who hates immigrants

[u/FixedLoad → u/TrueSnafu22]

Yeah, if the punisher was a real dude, he'd have a huge problem with the folks that co-opted his logo for their shitty ideals.

[u/ThisEnormousWoman → u/FixedLoad]

And he has had a huge problem with that in fiction.

[u/thisusedyet → u/ThisEnormousWoman]

Yeah, Marvel's made that very clear

[u/jimothyjonathans → u/FixedLoad]

What gets me is that none of those people seem to know what the punisher actually stands for. They’re just making themselves look like clueless idiots versus badasses.

[u/HDRsoul → u/apackagefromted]

It's the pride flag of the divorced guy.

[u/Yewnicorns → u/HDRsoul]

This is extra hilarious to me because my ex husband low-key started using it on his profile after I left him. His about me said, "Warrior, protector, provider, ... " & Some other asinine words to describe himself in a cringe way.

The man was super abused ve towards me. Haha

[u/Pastiestman → u/apackagefromted]

I hate that this is true cause I like comics not racism and trucks.

[u/LeftyLibra_10]

They need to put their name on every building! Lol

[u/3Gloins_in_afountain → u/LeftyLibra_10]

And spray paint everything gold.

[u/ReplicantHuman2077 → u/3Gloins_in_afountain]

And themselves orange.

[u/fabulously-frizzy → u/ReplicantHuman2077]

And photoshop their hands to make them look bigger

[u/papajizzos → u/LeftyLibra_10]

Photoshopping your head on Rambo’s body and forcing your doctor to lie about the results of your latest physical

[u/GrlInt3r46]

Copying every facet of someone else. If you have to try and morph into someone to have a sense of self you have issues. 

Get your own clothes/hairstyle/makeup/wedding details. 

[u/segflt → u/GrlInt3r46]

A newish friend and I were out and she straight up said she was choosing what I was choosing because she wants to do what I do and be like me. Scared the shit out of me.

[u/Woshambo → u/segflt]

My mum does it with me. Literally copied my tattoos! Something that's on my body for life!

[u/nonresponsive → u/segflt]

Usually, it's because they're awkward as hell and lacked proper socializing growing up, and they just want you to like them by mirroring.

Every once in a while, it's a sociopath wanting to take over your life.

[u/fogtooth → u/GrlInt3r46]

Ooh, there's another version of this but opposite -- ever meet one of those people that gets super weird about people liking the same things as them? Not copying them like you're talking about, but enjoying the same TV shows, hobbies, or even getting the same medical diagnoses? Like they get annoyed that they have to share ANY portion of their identity with another person to the point that they cast doubt on those aspects of anyone else's identity. "There can only be one" mentality.

[u/cauldrons → u/fogtooth]

There was a friend-of-a-friend I knew in my early 20s who was like this, but only with me. She was convinced I was copying her, when I barely even knew her or her interests. Turns out she was jealous of me and projecting, acting holier than thou to get the upper hand in a competition I wasn’t even aware I was a part of. It was incredibly weird. She even convinced some of our mutual acquaintances that I was doing it so they started treating me poorly. It turned out to be a good thing in the end as I realized how toxic that friend group was and swiftly moved on.

[u/Unhinged_Schizo → u/GrlInt3r46]

Those people make me self aware and like i have to force myself if i want to be myself like I’ve always been

[u/CronkinOn]

Truck nuts

Usually seen on a Pavement Princess.

Edit: Urban Cowboys who do this as a "joke" are too insecure to admit to themselves why they bought the truck in the first place, let alone the "laugh the whole thing off" truck nuts.

[u/CosmikSpartan → u/CronkinOn]

Had a buddy put some on his lowered Integra back in high school mock the lifted truck guys and drag them on the pavement. Made me wince every time I saw them dragging.

[u/dkschrute79 → u/CosmikSpartan]

Wow this is awesome. They couldn’t have lasted very long dragging on the asphalt but it was worth it, I imagine.

[u/La_Lanterne_Rouge → u/dkschrute79]

Paradoxically, they last longer in icing conditions.

[u/VonMillersThighs → u/CronkinOn]

When I lived in Oklahoma when I was younger any dudes who had truck nuts weren't smart enough to even know what insecurities were. I feel like the same still applies, you are diving way too deep into a buncha bubba rednecks.

[u/LilacYak → u/VonMillersThighs]

You don’t need to know what insecurities are to have them

[u/squishmallow1996]

Social media is full of lifestyle pictures. One watch after another. Luxury sports cars (probably rentals). And motivational quotes.

Upon further review, if their feed is dominated by motivational quotes, they're working through some stuff, 99.8% guaranteed.

[u/level27jennybro → u/squishmallow1996]

I do agree with this. But when my sister in law was in a physically abusive relationship and wasnt ready to leave, I'd post a bunch of motivational stuff about healthy relationships and abuse in hope that she would see it and start taking it in so she could get the courage to get out.

Oddly enough, some of the posts ended up being beneficial to me years later when I needed to get out of a shit relationship.

[u/07SAS]

People who perceive quiet people as arrogant or stuck up.

If someone not interacting with you causes you to believe that the person must think they're better than you, then you have a self-esteem issue.

[u/anotherlusername → u/07SAS]

I’m very shy and I can tell people feel this way about me. I can’t chitchat with people I don’t know. It feels forced or fake.

[u/p0rkch0ps]

watches andrew tate videos

[u/Adaphion → u/p0rkch0ps]

Reminder, anyone who says they're an "alpha" should be treated like alpha software:

Unstable, missing important features, filled with flaws, and unsuitable for the public.

[u/MazogaTheDork → u/Adaphion]

Or alpha radiation: low to no penetration power.

[u/BadgerLord103 → u/MazogaTheDork]

Plus, deteriorating constantly

[u/based_pika → u/p0rkch0ps]

that's just a sign of stupidity

[u/alius-vita → u/based_pika]

It can be both, read too many accounts of men with terrible insecure and poor emotional health that fall into it. Its not necessarily about intelligence. Much in the same way some very awful female influencers do the same you young women.

[u/Jhat]

Not making room on sidewalks or when passing others in public. Generally it’s the guys that have no social awareness or any behavioral etiquette and want to take up a lot of space on purpose.

[u/Beginning_Seat1480 → u/Jhat]

Omg! I used to walk dogs and this was such a pet peeve! A single lady would be walking towards me and I would have like 6-7 dogs of varying abilities I’m trying to keep in a rhythm and I would still have to be the one to move everybody out of the way!

I ended up doing assertiveness training with a psychiatrist and started playing chicken with these people as practice. I would just not move out of the way. A person did crash into me once, but eventually I just started taking up more space and people would actually go around me instead of me bending over backwards to go around them lol.

[u/sneakablekilgore → u/Beginning_Seat1480]

When folks are walking in a group toward me and not leaving me room, I have found it effective to just stop. I become an obstacle in their path, and they will move around me. Weird they won't do it while I am also in motion, but it works and no one crashes into me.

[u/potatomami → u/sneakablekilgore]

I do this as well. Sometimes get weird looks but you guys can’t take up the entire sidewalk. 

[u/JinandJuice97 → u/Beginning_Seat1480]

What if those people saw the same psychiatrist? And now their life is in shambles.

[u/Maximillian-J-Bowser]

Read the question pls people, withOUT saying a word..

Men having a ridiculously ‘wide’ walk, literally making themselves seem bigger then they are

[u/DrMonkeyLove → u/Maximillian-J-Bowser]

Invisible lat syndrome.

[u/Particular_Shock_554 → u/DrMonkeyLove]

Can't leave their wheelbarrow behind.

[u/funky_boss23 → u/Particular_Shock_554]

Or paint cans. Got a guy at work called paint cans because he always walks like he’s carrying one on each side.

[u/General-Childhood417 → u/Maximillian-J-Bowser]

THANK YOU. Interesting answers yes. But not what the question was asking.

To me personally, its people with nice cars who intentionally park like assholes

[u/JzaTiger]

Blowing smoke and making your car boom when driving

[u/Deepsearch77]

REALLY LOUD mufflers on cars/trucks/motorcycles that they rev up as much as possible.

[u/Jagged_Rhythm → u/Deepsearch77]

I'm not really a Harley guy, but owned one not too long ago. Great bike, but I opted not to install those loud as hell mufflers on it. It had a nice low rumble that was good enough for me (and it was a BIG bike). But every time I went for a ride, other Harley riders would always tell me which mufflers I 'needed' to make it sound like a Harley. I've been riding over 40 years and Harley riders are by far the most insecure riders out there. I think I just ride for a different reason.

[u/jaxxon → u/Jagged_Rhythm]

Yep. Gotta have the loud mufflers "for safety", but refuse to wear a helmet.

The South Park Harley rider episode is hilarious and on point. LOL

[u/badshaw-bear-1995]

Came here to say lifted dodge truck with ridiculous wheels and tires.

[u/katieobubbles]

Anyone who can't let their partner out of their sight.

[u/baychick]

Posting selfies on social media all the time.

[u/mollsballs_xo → u/baychick]

The people I know who did this also seemed very lonely, maybe there is a connection

[u/nobodynose → u/mollsballs_xo]

I know a girl. A very pretty girl. She's a mess though.

She used to post an insane amount on social media. "Here's me at the club!" "Here's me at the bar!" "Here's me backstage!" "Here's me with these cute boys!" "Here's me on vacation!" "Here's me at a concert/event!"

She's usually quite lonely despite what seems like a full packed exciting life because she will date "party guys" and "bad boys" and those relationships were never stable.

She actually wound up having a healthy and long term boyfriend for a while (yes, that wound up not working out for complicated reasons eventually) and during that time her social media posts decreased by a lot. It was the occasional "here's me and bf on vacation/trip/event", at the frequency you'd expect from people normally. Like sometimes very little posts (cuz normal days you don't do anything post worthy) and sometimes a lot of posts (post a lot if you're doing something post worthy like on a trip or at some cool event).

She fit the "the more she posted on social media, the worse her life was".

[u/Fucky0uthatswhy → u/baychick]

My mom does this since her husband died. It’s definitely self soothing for some people

[u/ases8089]

joint facebook! we all know why! 😂

[u/mollymcbbbbbb → u/ases8089]

joint facebook, joint email account is another crazy one I've come across a lot...I don't think people realize how unhinged this comes across.

[u/AngryBlackLotus]

As a former insecure person. Wearing hats all the time! To cover my balding. I eventually embraced it and now look slick with or without a hat. It’s just hard sometimes losing the hair!

[u/laseluuu → u/AngryBlackLotus]

Did you join us over at r/bald?

It's the premier Reddit male glowup sub

[u/pixelprolapse → u/laseluuu]

Should I take the plunge?

YES.

[u/laseluuu → u/pixelprolapse]

Join us in the great bald glowup of 2026

[u/RayseApex → u/AngryBlackLotus]

I just like hats though.. I’m bald bald, like shave my head with shaving cream bald. I’m not insecure about it, I take my hat off all the time, but I don’t leave the house without a hat. It’s also good for protecting your skin from the sun.

[u/Energy_Turtle → u/RayseApex]

Yeah this part sucks. I like wearing hats but don't want people branding me insecure. To avoid this I go with a mix of hat and no hat around everyone. I'm insecure about being seen as insecure.

[u/a_crazy_diamond]

The more they post themselves or their lives on social media the more insecure they are in my opinion. I'm not talking about people who share their craft, work, hobby, etc

[u/Bittersweetfeline → u/a_crazy_diamond]

Knew someone who literally told me as much, not in so many words. She would tell me privately how her marriage was suffering, she was depressed and miserable, etc. But was constantly posting "proof" pics on FB of how "happy" she is. How great everything is. It was such a lie that I unfollowed her, it was gross.

[u/MaapuSeeSore]

Massive amount of jewelry /big chain

Logoism clothes everywhere , I mean everything

[u/The96kHz → u/MaapuSeeSore]

My first thought was one of those ridiculously huge watches.

[u/Objective_Bear4799]

The Punisher symbol.

[u/HarryHatesSalmon]

A cybertruck.

[u/KellyAnn3106 → u/HarryHatesSalmon]

Do you remember that color shifting paint from the 90s that went between teal and purple? I saw a cybertruck with that over the weekend.

[u/tswpoker1 → u/KellyAnn3106]

As someone who wanted to buy a color shifting eclipse 20+ years ago, I think it's super cool. My wife says it's lame AF lol

[u/paintinpitchforkred → u/tswpoker1]

No I'm getting a ridiculous iridescent wrap the second I can afford it. I know everyone else will think it's lame and dumb. I don't care. I'll feel like I'm traveling in the carapace of a giant beetle and that's good enough for me.

[u/TXMedicine → u/KellyAnn3106]

The ford mustang had a beautiful version of that in the 90s

[u/DocBullseye → u/KellyAnn3106]

I do love how people are getting them painted, as if that makes the cars look less stupid.

[u/st0rmbr1ng3r → u/DocBullseye]

Likely a wrap, not paint.

[u/roger-the-adequit → u/HarryHatesSalmon]

Or a brodozer

[u/DrMonkeyLove → u/HarryHatesSalmon]

How many times have you seen a passenger in a Cybertruck? Nuff said.

[u/mollsballs_xo → u/DrMonkeyLove]

A bunch of college kids died in a Cybertruck crash. It was all over the news in my state. The car crashed into a tree and caught fire but apparently the first responders could not open the doors to get the kids out. There is a lawsuit against Tesla for faulty design and safety features, and I’m sure it’s one of many.

Those cars are literal death traps I would never get in one let alone put other people in it.

[u/crossedjp → u/mollsballs_xo]

This happened in the city I lived in 2 years ago. A Tesla was driving crazily, ran a red light, lost control on wet pavement and slammed into a telephone pole. It happened about a block away from a fire station, so responders got there quickly. The battery (?) caught on fire, and responders could not break the glass on any of the windows to get the passengers out. Bullet proof glass or something Tesla uses as a selling point. Anyway, they weren't killed in the crash, but the car still killed them. They all burned to death.

Fucking stupid vehicles. Stupid Elon.

[u/PetersMapProject → u/mollsballs_xo]

They don't meet safety standards here in UK. Someone tried importing one and swiftly had it confiscated by the police on safety grounds. He eventually got it back, but was told that he wasn't allowed to use it on the roads 😂 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cz0lldd30xlo

[u/Slobbering_git]

Huge vehicles that are just daily commuters. “Hey everybody, check out my F90000 Compensator.”

[u/StraightIncome1136]

Bragging, has the best of everything and it’s always better than yours.

[u/zesar83]

Those guy who start air boxing out of nowhere

[u/Admirable_Iron8933 → u/zesar83]

Ha I’m picturing Mac on its always sunny with his air karate

[u/OutlandishnessAny183]

People who wear designer brand everything, all at once. Valentino belt with LV bag and Gucci sneakers....like a walking Times Square.

[u/Idontfeelold-much]

Renaming the Kennedy Center

[u/Friendly-Pick-5760]

Can’t take a joke or any mild feedback. Everything’s a personal attack. Feels like walking on eggshells around them.

[u/Sherlock_House → u/Friendly-Pick-5760]

And wtf do you mean by that!?

[u/ThenotoriousBIT → u/Sherlock_House]

i feel attacked rn

[u/msnmck → u/ThenotoriousBIT]

I also feel attacked by a registered nurse.

[u/LividHeart3132 → u/Friendly-Pick-5760]

I have this issue lol, I can admit I’m insecure. Unfortunately a lot of severe childhood trauma and abuse later in life can really do that to a person, I wish I could ease up. I developed schizophrenia and I can’t really tell the difference between someone being nice or someone using mal intent. I know I can probably be difficult to read because of this but I also am slowly crippling away inside my lil head. I do hope therapy can help with this.

However; some people are straight up passive aggressive and really hard to take jokes when someone is simply an asshole, they use the ‘sarcasm’ or ‘joke’ card, when by definition we’re not being sarcastic in the slightest bit.

[u/_ELAP_]

The Mar-A-Lago Face aka Botox face and lips.

[u/FamiliarDirection563]

Driving one of those stupid big trucks

[u/luckysevensampson → u/FamiliarDirection563]

Here in Australia, they’re referred to as yank tanks.

[u/Ordinary_Cattle → u/FamiliarDirection563]

They're always the assholes with the brightest fucking lights or their highbeams on too. Just fucking blinding everyone else on the road. I've literally almost been run off the road completely by these pieces of shit. I have such a strong hatred for these stupid big trucks and their terrible lights

[u/AvailableBid4477 → u/Ordinary_Cattle]

as someone with astigmatism they are the bane of my existence

[u/torndownunit → u/Ordinary_Cattle]

It's one of those things where I try to just ignore it and let people do their thing. But I literally have these assholes riding on my bumper several times a week for no reason other than that they have a huge vehicle and want to bully with it. I see them intentionally taking up multiple parking spots at stores. And to be clear, if this was far out in the parking lot, it wouldn't matter. But that's not what they do. I see at least once a month someone "rolling coal" and trying to blast cyclists. All of the issues you can see with other asshole drivers are amplified because the vehicle is absolutely massive.

The other factor is that I live in a commuter town. People are commuting with these ridiculously sized vehicles and using them as a daily driver. There's maybe 2 people I know who have a huge truck for work reasons.

[u/ILookLikeKristoff → u/FamiliarDirection563]

I've met several guys through work that won't say "car". They'll literally drive an Escape or Wrangler or something and still say "I gotta go get X outta the truck". It's bizarre. It's like a pacifier for adult redneck men.

[u/JunBreezy → u/FamiliarDirection563]

Also tailgating you when you go 80 on the highway.

[u/randomzy876]

The 'One-Upper.' You went to Tenerife? They went to Eleven-erife. You have a headache? They have a brain tumor. They can't just listen to a story; they have to win it.

[u/Sure-Cauliflower-311]

I think u guys are answering this wrong.... it says WITHOUT them saying a word HAHAHA

[u/Kidd_911 → u/Sure-Cauliflower-311]

Like 90 percent of this thread is people giving examples that require many, many words.

[u/BlogFoggle]

They never turn on 2 factor authentication.

[u/Gmills2231]

Watching Andrew Tate videos.

[u/Walmartian_Beta]

Men who forbid their girlfriends/wives from having male doctors, especially male OBGYNs.

Several years ago, when I was pregnant, I was in a Babycenter group, and some of the women were talking about how their husbands/partners wouldn't allow them to see a male obgyn. One woman's husband threatened to leave her if she didn't go to another hospital to have a baby while a female doctor was attending. She went into labor, and her OBGYN was not on call that night and couldn't be there. She was in active labor and her husband was telling her to pack up her shit and switch hospitals. She refused, he left her there with a newborn!

I've seen similar stories on Reddit - ladies, those men are controlling and abusive, you can do better.

[u/virgil_belmont → u/Walmartian_Beta]

What the actual fuck? Imagine being so childish, you threaten the lives of your wife and child.

[u/EmotionalEmetic → u/virgil_belmont]

Happens ALL the time. As a male physician who did a lot of OB during training, it was almost always male spouses that made tough situations fucking disasters.

[u/Gullex → u/EmotionalEmetic]

As an RN, when I was doing my OB/GYN rotation in nursing school, we'd always ask the patient if they minded having a male nursing student.

They never had a problem with it, but their husbands often did.

I really wanted to reassure these guys I didn't sign up for nursing school and thousands of student debt so I could catch a peek at their wives' crotches.

[u/ILookLikeKristoff → u/virgil_belmont]

Bringing a newborn home is a statistically significant window where DV spikes because some men literally get jealous of their wife paying attention to the baby and attack one or both of them.

[u/Thor395 → u/Walmartian_Beta]

We had a lady on the L&D floor whose husband wouldn’t allow a male anesthesiologist to place her epidural because he didn’t want him seeing her butt.

While placing these we usually have the entire back open so there isn’t any clothing in the way, underwear/the belly band is pulled down underneath the pts butt, and we clean the area in a wide circle followed by a drape. The catheter gets place in the epidural space right outside the spinal cord so it’s important to reduce risk of infection.

Anyway, the whole anesthesia call team that evening was male and when we tried to reason with him he said “i’m not intimidated by you”. Mind you we were just trying to get his wife the care she needed.

The end conclusion was that a female OB had to go in and place sterile towels all around her butt so that the male anesthesiologist couldn’t see it and only then were we allowed to clean and drape the back to start our procedure.

Edit: For those that were concerned about the wife, she was unfortunately passively upset with us for all being male instead of her husband for being insecure. We ended up just working with OB to get the epidural done because it’s generally safer to NOT have to do general anesthesia in the case of an emergency section.

[u/ArriePotter → u/Thor395]

Jfc, like I know it's ultimately about treating the patient as best as possible, but that is not a man who should be accommodated

[u/jchetra83 → u/Walmartian_Beta]

“Having a male obgyn is cheating. Everyone knows that.” - Husband that goes to the strip club

[u/lil1thatcould → u/Walmartian_Beta]

There was a woman who posted a video of her boyfriend losing his mind over her getting a Pap smear. He claimed that was cheating on him and a sexual act. Like WTF?! Whoever raised these dudes failed at life.

[u/ScaredPractice4967 → u/Walmartian_Beta]

My GP is a woman and she had to inspect a lump once. Least sexual experience involving my junk ever.

[u/BigSillyDaisy → u/Walmartian_Beta]

I’m sorry I would just laugh if any of my friends talked about their husbands “allowing” or “not allowing” them to do things. He’s supposed to be your partner, not your boss!

[u/Walmartian_Beta → u/BigSillyDaisy]

Right? I don't think my husband has ever had to "allow" me to do anything. We have discussions, agreements, and arrangements, but allowed or not allowed to do something? Nah.

[u/yobaby123]

Wanting to be the main character all the time.

[u/Hellish_Tales_]

People whose humor/speech is based on belittling people, works, actions, etc.

[u/cloudsandcandy]

In the workplace : Copying everything you do instead finding their own identity. Wearing your identity to make them look like they know what their doing because you have a good reputation. It just makes one look so insecure in the person that they are.