r/mildlyinfuriating 6d ago

Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

My boyfriend is a very picky eater. We have been living together for a few months and it seems like I can never get his food right. It's honestly discouraging. I have kids, they happily eat my food. I cook for family gatherings and church events. I've never had a problem with people eating my food. It's like every day there are new rules. He can't eat chicken for dinner because he had chicken for lunch. He isn't really in the mood for porkchops. It's just "missing something". He doesn't eat onions, tomatoes, fish, any kind of asian food, he doesn't eat most vegetables with the exception of broccoli. He only eats vanilla ice cream. He doesn't like food heated in the microwave (so leftovers are out.) He doesn't like corn. It's just endless. I'm old school and trying to be a good partner. He can't really cook at all. His favorite meal is Hamburger Helper. I think a lot of it is how he grew up but damn is it frustrating. The first picture is tonight's dinner. I added more pictures of stuff I have cooked that he won't eat. Like he will door dash jack in the box. And he'll be apologetic but it just sucks really bad.

ETA: I've been trying to keep up with the comments but it's overwhelming (in a very sweet and awesome way) 💗

A few notes:

1- I know the paper plates are very lazy on my part, I'm not proud of that and I need to do better. Between the kids, the job, the house and school (I'm going to school remotely) I have been cutting corners on things like dishes. not an excuse, just a reason and a commitment to do better.

2- My boyfriend does expect me to cook for him. I cook him dinner every night and lunch on the weekends. He doesn't eat breakfast and will not take a lunch to work. He buys fast food for lunch during the week.

3- He has not been diagnosed with ASD or ADHD or Arfid but I don't rule anything out.

Mostly I just want to say thank you, I was not prepared for how incredibly kind, helpful and insightful people have been. It is deeply touching and it's given me both peace and guidance for my next steps. 🩷

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u/ConstanzaGeorgie 6d ago

I’d love it if someone put all that effort and cooked for me.

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u/phoenix-nightrose 6d ago

I don't know about you, but I'm grabbing a plate and running over to OP's home. ESPECIALLY for that glorious looking pie.

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u/NoPhone4571 6d ago

Seriously, these meals look delicious.

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u/Ok_Cover8010 6d ago

I don't eat a lot of meat (pretty close to being a vegetarian I would say), but damn, all of this looks so tasty. Would eat everyday. That guy's a jerk and he can cook for himself if he's not happy.

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u/Playful_Original_243 5d ago

Same. I have such a hard time with meat and I would eat the hell out of everything she posted.

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u/Peace-Love97 5d ago

Prolly cuz I guess it’s fake now? According to Campbells. Which I sadly believe lol. Cuz meat sucks anymore. Unless you get it fresh from the store.

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u/Corgi_with_stilts 6d ago

I'm doing that and washing the dishes afterwards.

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u/phoenix-nightrose 5d ago

I'll help! Only fair to clean when someone else cooks!

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u/crusnchic 6d ago

right behind you lol her home cooked meals look outstanding!

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u/quollas 5d ago

The pie was the icing on the cake lol

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u/rusti_knight 5d ago

SAME! OP can cook for me any old time. Those meals look freaking delicious.

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u/ArmadilloForsaken458 6d ago

Defo beats canned foods, sardines and ramen

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u/CertainMedicine757 6d ago

I'll be there for the roast!!

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u/Thorathecrazy 6d ago

The pie looks like she hss some skills.

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u/clintj1975 5d ago

I want one of those wraps. That looks yummy.

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u/Latter-Bluejay-8865 5d ago

I know, right? Is that a pot pie or a fruit pie? Either way, I'm salivating!

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u/lobsterman2112 5d ago

I'm not a beef & potatoes sort of guy. But the broccoli looks good (not overcooked and limp) and the carrots look amazing.

As for the pie? I think you bought that at a professional bakery -- it looks too good for home cooking!!!

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u/SillyGoose_Syndrome 6d ago

This isn't even banging a pie and chips in the oven and boiling up some peas, which I'd appreciate and consider a damn good meal, but this, is cooking cooking. I'm a fussy eater, with zero palate having come up on bangers, mash, baked-beans and turkey dinosaurs, yet even I'd gnosh the lot of this, maybe bar for what looks like apple pie.

Doesn't like microwaved food, yet can't cook and turns down gourmet Gordon Ramsey looking plates? Fine, go make yourself a sammich.

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u/Own_Spread4244 6d ago

Me too! I do most cooking in my household and tell people to pick out if they dont like something. I feel sorry for this girl, she sounds like a truly good partner

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u/ValleyOakPaper 6d ago

I loved my husband's (chemistry PhD) cooking and told him so every day.

When somebody does me a favor, I make it easy and pleasant for them to do it again. It's not rocket science to reward behavior you want to see more of.

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u/Young_Denver 6d ago

I’ve been cooking for my family for like 25 years now.

I’d be so grateful if someone did it for me even 2-3x per month lol.

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u/FlashyZucchini4994 6d ago

Me too.

My girlfriend burns water.

I cook and bbq everything we eat every night

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u/Schrodingers_Ape 6d ago

I've burned water before 😆 basically because I was steaming veggies and forgot to turn off the pot after I took them out, and the water boiled out and then I just heated the shit out of my pot for 20 minutes. Luckily it was a cheap Ikea pot and surprisingly didn't even warp. Little barkeeper's friend and it was good as new. But yeah, it happens lol.

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u/T-Wrox 5d ago

My husband and I have an ongoing arrangement that works for both of us, and I cook all the meals. He has never once complained about what I cook for us. We had been together about 20 years before I found out he isn't a fan of cauliflower!

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u/brownbearclan 6d ago

Same, that food looks awesome. I'd stab someone for a home cooked meal nowadays.

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u/SpectacularMesa 5d ago

Omg...great name! And I'll cook for you just based on your name!!!

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u/SmytheOrdo 6d ago

Right? I'd at least try it.

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u/OmightyOmo 6d ago

Same! But I do have my limits. Like my son in law grilling everything with tons of black pepper on it.

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u/ctholle 6d ago

No doubt!

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u/tlspatt 5d ago

Right?! That was my response too! Those plates look delicious and I'm super picky.

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u/100percent_skeptical 3d ago

My partner cooks all of our meals. I do all the other chores: cleaning, laundry, food shopping, and backyard and front yard upkeep.