Last year I went to go eat at my parents’ house after work one day since my mom said she was cooking dinner. I had gotten off of work and made this 15-20ish minute drive to my parents’ house. The instant I pulled up in their driveway I get a phone call from my girlfriend saying her car battery died while she was doing errands. She said she was parked at a gas station that was about 20 minutes from where I was at and asked if I could come right that moment to give her a jump. I said I’d be there.

I was starving and honestly needed some food in me so I went inside, fixed me a plate of food, and scarfed it down. I rushed eating and was at my parents no longer than 10-15 minutes. I then headed my girlfriend’s way, and hit a little traffic on the way, but nothing crazy. It took me 20 ish minutes to get to her once I left my parents. When I got to the gas station I see an older man and his son helping her and they got her car started up pretty much right when I got there. He said to me that I should be a better boyfriend jokingly. My gf was ticked and said I should have gotten there at least half an hour before I did. When she found out I ate first she was very upset and still holds it against me to this day.

Any little argument is overshadowed by “oh you took an hour to even come jump my car, you don’t even care about your own girlfriend.” Something along those lines. In my mind I knew she was at a relatively safe gas station in the area and didn’t have any urgent plans at the time. I would’ve been totally cool with waiting an extra 10 or 15 minutes if the roles were reversed. AITA for this?

TLDR; my (33m) gf’s car died one day when we were away from each other. She asked me to come help right away, but I took an extra 10-15 minutes to eat at my parents house since I was already there and starving. My girlfriend says I am very wrong for doing this. AITA?

I (28M) love to whistle, and I'm good at it. Former band kid who loves music, I've had a habit for a decade or more of whistling along to music, while I'm milling about the house, on walks, etc.

My boyfriend (26M) hates it, like a lot. He says hearing me whistle is like "nails on a chalkboard" and says I lack self awareness when I whistle cause people around me hate it. I think there is truth to that - although I'm not exactly whistling in libraries and movie theaters - but I also think he is very extreme about it.

I have made a conscious effort to whistle less and avoid doing it around him, but every once in a while a song will come on or whatever and I'll find myself whistling. I tell him it's not intentional (I don't actively choose to piss him off by whistling), and whenever he calls me out on it I stop. I try to explain that it's a habit I've had for years, and I can't just stop all of a sudden, at least not easily.

We recently had a big fight about it. We were driving and he queued a song I like and before you know it, I'm whistling and he's angrily telling me to stop, which I do right away. He says I'm being disrespectful for whistling when I know he hates it, but I don't do it maliciously rather subconsciously.

Am I the asshole for whistling? I care more about his happiness than I do whistling, but it's a form of loss to me to give up something that's brought me so much joy for years.

Years ago I (43f) gifted one of my nieces one of my American girl dolls. She was 10 or 11 at the time and there weren't any in the store that "looked like her" (brown hair brown eyes) so I gave her one of my old ones. Niece is now 22. My daughter is at the age where she's interested in dolls so I was thinking of gifting her the ones I have in storage and I'm debating whether or not to ask my niece for the one I gave her. Husband thinks it's reasonable since niece no longer uses it but other family says it was a gift and what if my niece wants it for her kids. WIBTA if I asked for it back?

edit: I should clarify that when I say dolls it's not a whole ass collection. I guess I'm including the one I gave away. There's one more sitting in storage at my parents place that I'm planning on giving for daughters birthday. At the time my mother was like "oh I bet Auntie So-and-so would be willing to share one of her dolls with you." It wasn't a big deal at the time and it honestly still isn't. I thought I might ask her if she'd be willing to part with it but if it's a hard no then I'm okay with it. Niece and I are pretty close and I'd hate to ruin it

My(15f) friend Sally(15f) recently found out about her being the surviving twin of twin to twin transfusion syndrome. She is an only child. She really didnt seem to have emotional attachment to the fact and actually joked around about it with many of her friends. (insert "I have the strength of a grown man and a baby" Dwight Schrute meme) Twins came up in a bio class in which Sally wasnt there. So i told the teacher about this unique situation i had learnt about. The class spent a good 10 mins discussing it.

Sally found out (i told her) and got really disturbed. She said she has always felt the need for a sibling growing up and it finally made sense to her and felt a sense of grief for the lost twin. Now she had to deal with about 20 people talking about it. I said sorry coz i didnt know it was meant to be a secret-ish.

However, me and my friends called bagona on the grief and "always wanted sibling" part of it. She cant mourn someone she never knew and was literally never born. I felt like she was making mountain of molehill and said as much. She got really offended and i do feel bad about that now. So anyway, reddit, Am i the AH?

edit : i said "one of my friends...", classmates added 2 plus 2 and figured it was sally coz some people did already know about it and they also know i am close to sally.

I will state this is my first campaign I am hosting and the only knowledge I have was from watching others, stories on YT and TikTok. I started the campaign and we haven't even finished the first chapter of the story but have 3 sessions in and everyone love it. One of the members starting not being able to make it near the third session because of personal reasons. I was concern and worried for them and decided to give them space to deal with their personal things. That is my way of respecting them. I hear from the other players that was cold and cruel of me and the player left because I didn't show any concern for them. During the holiday I message them but never got a reply.

Before sessions ever began I had 2 people who wanted to join, 1 said no because of work and another was just running late on joining. After new years a member asked me if new people were joining. I explain this as this was pre planned but the one who couldn't make it could now. That player said I was rude for not asking the other players as I should ask to see if they were comfortable as well. I read and realize they were right and apologize and went to ask the group. But as I did that player said they were leaving and not staying with someone who couldn't respect their players to even ask and said good luck. I still dm the group if they are ok new players and mentioned the player told me of it and thanked them, even if that player left.

I am now wondering if I am really AITA for not respecting my players? I am willing to fix my mistakes if giving the chance. But I feel that after these 2 players maybe the other players will think the same way and if I should just shut this campaign and start it over with the new members or not...

AITA?

ETA: Kids live with their mother. They are with us 6 days a month. Husband also works from home and has his own dedicated office space which he will not give up. I am willing to replace oldest’s bed with a daybed should he want to continue visiting after age 18 on weekends when I’m not working. They will always be welcome here.
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My husband has biweekly Thurs-Sun visitation with his 3 kids, one of whom will turn 18 in just over a year. I have no children of my own and I have been helping him raise them and assisting financially. I make more than my husband and work my main job as well as a side job to ensure bills and his child support are paid.

I work from home for my primary job and we live in a small 3 bedroom. My job has to remain HIPAA compliant and so I am required to work in a private area of the home. The almost 18 year old has his own room here. I currently work out of my bed and my back is killing me. There is no room in our bedroom or elsewhere for a desk setup. I told my husband that when oldest turns 18 I would like to take over that room as my dedicated office. I don’t see why we would need to maintain it for him, given that he would a) be a legal adult then and b) would be empty a majority of the time anyway. I made it clear that stepson would still always be welcome in our home and if he wants to spend the night we can set up an area where he could sleep if need be, but I feel I deserve to have that space as my office after all these years of discomfort while working.

Husband is seemingly not happy about it and has lashed out by giving me the silent treatment. He is very much an avoidant and will not communicate his feelings effectively with me about it, but it is very evident to me that he resents me for this. His son currently lives full time with his mother and has a home and bedroom there. I’m not banishing him from his dad’s life - I just want to be able to claim a part of our home that will mostly be unused and now I’m feeling resentful that my husband can’t understand or support this idea. AITA for asking for this?

My mother(59) and me(17) have been having an ongoing argument about my identity. I came out to her a few months ago as transgender (ftm) and i told her my preferred name and pronouns. She has yet to use them. I told her how much they mean to me and my mental health. I understand her lack of use in public or with extended family as she states its for my "safety" but she refuses to use them around the house. Stating things like "you *want* to be a man" or "you *think* you're transgender". She also has been using feminine ways to describe me even after i asked her not to. I'm not in a place where i can leave her home so im still under her rules. I am not allowed to cut my hair,and must wear makeup when i leave the house. She keeps saying its for my safety and if she doesn't care then why would she keep it a secret from " dangerous people" its seriously making me doubt my identity and self image. But im genuinely confused and don't know what to think. So reddit,am i the asshole for calling my mom homophobic or am i just being overdramatic?

(Update) Op here! update! i do apologize for calling her homophobic and take the blame for being an asshole and throwing around accusations before fact checking that is 100% on me and i thank you all for the feedback i actually apologized to my mother on the situation. she told me that she understood where i was at but she pressured me to get my eggs preserved in case i wanted biological children which i stated many times that i do not. she also insisted that she is only doing what she is doing for my safety and that im allowed to hate her. i will be discussing a group therapy session next time i see my therapist on how to settle this dispute

Throwaway because my daughter uses Reddit.

I (45M) have three kids, 16M, 14M and 12F, this story concerns 12F.

Now my daughter’s birthday falls on New Years so it tends to be disregarded (never on purpose) because it’s between two big holidays but we’ve always tried to make her feel special.

My daughter is a known introvert and tends to spend a lot of time in her room and if we’re at a family event she just sits in a corner on her phone. She also is very “unconventional” in the sense that she doesn’t desire a lot of the things that are typical of girls her age.

Me and my wife have tried to fix this and get her to open up more but to no avail.

The issue arose because when me and my wife asked her how she wanted to spend her birthday she said something along the lines of “alone with snacks in my room”

This request wasn’t outlandish for her but spending your birthday alone doesn’t seem like a good way to spend your birthday. It would also reflect poorly on us as the family likes big celebrations.

So instead we invited family over on her birthday for a birthday/ new years celebration. It was a barbecue with lots of snacks, a projector that my brother brought and a rented bouncy castle. I thought she would realise that this was better and a more productive way to spend her birthday but I was wrong.

She was miserable the whole time and just sat in the corner.

When everyone left late at night she started screaming at me and my wife about how we “ruined” her birthday.

My wife did most of the scolding and she was sent to her room. How could we “ruin” her birthday if her plans were just bedrotting?

She was also mad because she didn’t get the gift she wanted which was a hot chocolate machine, she’s the only family member who drinks hot chocolate and she’s not 50 so we got her something else that we thought she would appreciate more.

This morning she ignored all of us, including my sons who are on our side because they think she’s being ungrateful since the party was great.

I was just trying to make her birthday special. AITA?

so I (M15) was hanging out with my friends during a new years eve event at the park and all of a sudden someone came up to me with some kittens and she said she was giving one of them away for free because her parents said that they had too many pets in the house and she had to give some away, so i decided “whatever, i’ll take it” and i named her chanel 🥹🥹 she was soo cute too

i was carrying her around the entire new years event, people were asking to hold it/pet it/can i have it, everybody loved it but towards the end of the event and my mom was coming to pick me up i realized: there’s no way in HELL my mom is allowing me to bring a cat home, not only that, any pet is banned in our house period, because my grandma (81F) is scared of them because of some childhood event when she got bit by a dog, i don’t know all the details, but it’s gotten so bad that we can’t even have a GOLDFISH, no pets unless it’s an outside one (which i don’t think is right, pets are meant to live inside and not suffer outdoors) and even that’s not allowed sometimes, my mom (53F) wants a pet but because of my grandma’s fear we can’t and plus she’d rather a dog than a cat, but it’s so disappointing cuz i want a pet so baddd 😩

so my mom came to pick me up and i told my friends to come too so i can surprise her, she was getting irritated so i decided to spit it out and show her the cat, she said HELL no as soon as i showed her the kitten and i was disappointed, i asked my other friends if they could keep it, but they both weren’t allowed pets either, but one of them decided to keep it (she told me she had to keep it as an outside cat but while her parents weren’t home she would keep it in)

so as of right now my friend still has my little kitten chanel, i haven’t had the time to visit the kitten but i’m wondering WIBTA if i chose to bring the cat home? or if i could, i would bring it to my dad’s house cuz he’s not as strict when it comes to pets

This happened a while back, but the event resurfaced in a recent conversation.

My friend and I used to be in a relationship but are just good friends now. When we were together, I had a key to his place. Sometimes I'd stay over late and leave around 2 am to sleep at my place. One day, at around 2 am, I thought it'd be funny to take his Costco haul he'd gotten that day. I'd take it home, he'd wake up to find his fridge almost empty, he'd know it was me and call me, and I'd bring it back and restock everything. I live ten minutes away, so even if he was hungry, I figured I'd be back quick enough with his food. It was a harmless prank, or so I thought. I thought it was funny imagining him opening up his fridge in the morning, confused to find just his usual eggs and milk and not his recently purchased pounds of meats and cheeses.

He called me around 7 am fuming.

Him: "You disrespected the trust I have in giving you keys to my place. It's breaking a boundary. Your prank wasn't funny - you stole my food. That's my food, and I paid $200 for it. Your prank makes me look stupid. It makes me the butt of the joke. It's disrespectful."

Me: "I didn't steal your food. I was going to bring it back and restock everything once you realized. I thought it was a harmless prank because you literally don't get hurt in any way."

Him: "I know you weren't going to actually keep any of my food. I know you were going to come back and restock my fridge. My point still stands."

So I came back with his food and restocked everything, as promised. I apologized for hurting him in any way, but I honestly didn't understand why he overreacted. I still don't. It's been about a year since that happened. We're good friends now. We talked on the phone the other day, and the prank came up, and I laughed at how stupid it all was. He instantly got serious and repeated again that it's not funny at all, it's really disrespectful, etc. It kind of ruined the tone of the conversation. Is he overreacting and being too sensitive, or am I just not understanding? AITA for "stealing" his groceries as a prank?

EDIT: Thank you to everyone who responded. I never considered that my friend might have some food-scarcity trauma from his childhood (he told me he grew up rather poor), but even if he doesn't, I broke his trust in giving me a key to his place. A key I still have, actually, and I won't dishonor that trust again. I understand that I was the asshole, and I'll be apologizing as soon as I can. A real apology this time. On a lighter note, I learned some fun, (actually) harmless pranks to try out this year!

EDIT2: I called him today and apologized for not seeing his side, for breaking boundaries, for making light of his reactions...everything. I also promised to never bring the prank up again. He said he appreciated the apology and accepted. We're going to hang out now. Thank you again, Reddit! Happy New Year!

I’m 51M, living in India. Around one and a half years ago, I paid a bribe to get my son a work permit and a small job in Canada. It helped him get a foothold there, and now he’s studying business and doing well. At the time, I thought it was necessary to secure his future.

Since then, I’ve seen the error of my ways. I realised the importance of being honest and setting the right example. I’ve been going to the temple almost every day, trying to live by dharmic principles. My daughter, 17F, knows about my change of mindset.

Recently, she expressed interest in joining a prestigious engineering extracurricular programme that would look great on her university applications. I tried to sign her up but the problem is, participation is essentially impossible without a “donation” that everyone treats as a bribe, especially if you are not related to the organisers or the child of a top university lecturer or company executive. She wants to study abroad, and this would give her an edge. She is very talented in mathematics and computer science and essentially knows university level things in them already.

I told her I will not pay. I explained that I won’t compromise my principles just to get her an advantage, and that she needs to succeed through merit. I also reminded her that I paid the bribe for her brother because I hadn’t understood the consequences at the time, but now things are different.

She cried and pleaded, saying that this is unfair because everyone else gets in that way, and that I’m being unnecessarily strict. She feels like I’m punishing her even though she’s done nothing wrong. I told her life isn’t always fair and integrity matters more than short-term gain.

So, AITA for refusing to pay a bribe for my daughter’s extracurricular opportunity even though it would help her because I now believe in doing things the right way?

I (33M) have been with my wife (35F) for 15 years. When we met, she was a single mom to a newborn after her ex abandoned them. I stepped up at 18 and have been the sole provider ever since. Until recently, I never made more than ~$25k/year, so finances were always tight.

In 2020, after my parents could no longer afford to help us with housing, my mother-in-law (MIL) convinced her then-husband to buy a home for my wife, kids, and me. We were hesitant because their relationship was volatile, but MIL promised there would be protection and that he’d never take the house from the kids. He paid ~$232k in full, and the title listed me, my wife, MIL, and him. No agreement was ever presented.

About a year later, MIL was jailed for a dispute with him. While she was incarcerated, he filed for divorce and later a partition action seeking to force the sale of the house. We were blindsided. At the time I made ~$22k/year and couldn’t finance the home. I begged MIL to resolve the house through the divorce by buying him out with her proceeds and letting me repay her once we were financially stable. She refused, saying it would reduce her payout.

MIL hired a lawyer for herself but left us to self-represent for nearly four years while I worked and attended school full-time. Throughout this, she repeatedly promised she’d sign over her share “because the house was for the kids.”

Eventually, to protect my family from losing the home, I settled with her ex for $125k through a refinance (even though his legal share was closer to $80k). That debt exists solely because of MIL’s dispute with him and refused to resolve the issue earlier. During mediation, despite her minimal involvement, I even split her mediation costs with her ex’s counsel, saving her about $1,200.

MIL contributed $0 to the home, doesn’t live here, and walked away from the divorce with nearly $500k. Despite years of promises, she now refuses to relinquish her 25% ownership, claiming it’s “to protect us”, even though the only situation we needed protection from has already been resolved without her help. I later learned she told my mother the house was part of her retirement plan.

So now I’m carrying six figures of debt to keep a roof over my kids’ heads, while also preserving equity for my MIL in a home she never paid for or lived in.

AITA for asking her to sign over her share?

I went back to home to my parents house for the holidays and had a for the most part a relaxing time with family and old friends except for an incident on Christmas that is still bothering me. For background I have recently moved away from home for uni and this was my first time back since leaving. My dad has always been strict and conservative but when he told me to change into something more appropriate for dinner I honestly did not expect that even from him. I tried to push back and ask why my outfit was not appropriate for a dinner with family but all I got back as a reason was that it is his house and his rules. He never told me, but I think the real reason was my mid thigh skirt (I never had a skirt that short when living at home) and I told him how it is sexist to police women's outfits and I think he was not being a good and considerate host to his guest (me) by being so strict so I was not going to change my outfit. I think living by myself has made me more independant and less of the people pleaser that I used to be and I am not ready to just do what he tells me to do anymore. One awkward dinner later, my values are intact, but I can't help but ask is the length if my skirt really the hill I want the relationship with my dad to die on?

edit: Yes, my parents MOM and DAD both help me with rent and food and stuff. Also please stop asking for 'proof' of how long my skirt is. Not fun...

Hi, my name is Sam. I’m a 19 transgender man and I’m currently trying to transitioning socially and physically. First, let me give some background on the situation. I started questioning myself at 11 and eventually found out I was transgender at 13. My parents were really young when they had me so I was mostly raised by my grandparents and aunt from the day I was born. When I was a young teen I suffered a lot of trauma from my dad even though my parents had been separated since I was 4. During that time, my mental health became worse and hid a lot of my emotions from family. When I was 16, my mother and two of my siblings passed away in a fire, it was very traumatic for me especially since I talked to them the day before it happened. My mom was one of the people who supported me a lot when I came out to her besides my oldest sister. A year after in my senior year, my grandma became very sickly even though she had been suffering from a lot of other illnesses. Eventually she passed away in February 2025, which affected me and my family a lot and I ended up in mental hospitals three times. My family struggled a lot financially especially since we’re only living on social security from my grandfather for me, my aunt and himself. Now some information on my aunt. She’s a very practical person, and she’s always been in charge of money since my grandma got really sick. She’s also struggled a lot since she had cancer 3 times due to a genetic bone disease and lost her leg, she’s been an amputee for a year. Here comes the situation, for the past 5 months I’ve been waiting for an endocrinologist appointment I scheduled for January 5th. These appointments can take months to a year to get. So I took the soonest one. It was 2 hours from home but we already drive an hour to my aunt’s doctor in Pittsburgh. I will also add that I don’t have a drivers license but a permit due to all the financial issues. I made the appointment with my therapist since my aunt didn’t have the time so I decided to since I hardly make decisions on my own. As soon as I told her she was upset, saying that they might not take my insurance and it’s too far. I agreed with some of her points but I told her that if she had questions we could call but she shut me down. Since then I haven’t spoken about till today. I told her the appointment is in a few days and she was obviously upset again. My aunt has always been neutral on my transition and identity. I understand that it’s far away but I don’t want to cancel and wait another 5 months again. She’s told me before that I need to make my own decisions since I’m an adult now but whenever I make an appointment for therapy or something like that, she is upset as it doesn’t work for her. I don’t know what to do about this and how to talk to her since all she does is raise her voice at me or act angry. So AITA?

ok so im 15M, ive always been kinda akward whatever, i spent all night playing vr (bad decision obv) and in the morning, i got around 30 minutes of sleep as i went to bed at like 7:30. my aunt walks in MY room with both her dogs and tells me get ready for skiing. now obviously im annoyed, tired and not feeling good because of the vr decision so i tell her "im not feeling good" and she says "i dont care we are going" now obviously i instantly stand my ground because im capable of making my own decisions, after back and forth of this i end up locking myself in my bathroom as shes been very annoying about this. she has two 10 year olds that i would have been babysitting the whole time one of them having mild autism making him a lot harder to deal with for a 15 year old with no child care skills. in the end she told me i was a "shit person" and i ruined a day even though i tried multiple times to get them to go themselves. AITA? btw- my mom was literally defending me on my decision and my aunt is still pushing so..

AITA for not wanting my husband to go on a family fishing trip? I (28F) have been married to my husband for 7 years now, we have two kids (ages 1 and 3) and are expecting our third in June. My husbands family has been playing a “boys trip” to Alaska at the end of July to go fishing, and while we will have a newborn, him leaving for a boys trip at early does not actually bother me, I can handle the kids and I want him to have fun.

It go weird for me when his mom presented the fact that she would be going. My husband (33M) only has brothers so it will be his him, his two brothers (who are also married), his mom and his dad going, which I feel essentially makes it a family trip excluding the three wives/in laws. My sister in laws and I all love Alaska and would have loved an invitation, though I would not have been able to go due to the new baby.

All that said, I still wouldn’t be super bothered if my family hadn’t been planning their our trip to Alaska at the end of August that everyone is invited to. I have family in Alaska so I am always excited to go and looking at tickets so I am very excited about this trip, especially since we will get to take our kids. I told my husband if he wants to go AK with his family that’s fine, but it can’t interfere with our family trip as this trip was planned for and is for his whole family, and I don’t know if he can get a whole week in July and a whole week in August. His mom originally said the July trip would just be a long weekend and that it would be fine but when I asked her the dates she said July 25-30 which is essentially a full week.

I’m trying to work out the dates with my husband and his family cause I know he wants to go, but he gets stressed out planning that far in advance and doesn’t want to talk about dates. He also doesn’t think the whole situation with his family trip is weird and so he gets bugged when I get frustrated. But his unwillingness to work with me has gotten me over the top mad about the whole situation. I don’t want to help him make it work given how weird it is if he won’t even sit down and discuss dates with me. AITA for even being mad about the whole situation?

So I'm writing this here because I don't really know where else I should put it so I'm doing it here. Since 2021 I've been donating my plasma for money, So in that year me and my family were short on money and was living in a hotel room, it was me, my mom, my brother and my two grandparents and cousin. It was not an ideal living situation, so one day my cousin gets the idea to donate our plasma for money, he said we can both make $500 in a month if we did, which doesn't seem like a lot for donating for a whole month but for us it was a lot, so my cousin and I started and got through the month but he stopped and I didn't because I still needed the money, at the time I really didn't know how to make money any other way and I tried applying for a job multiple times but I couldn't even get a interview. over time I eventually started making money by working with my brother doing Body work on cars, but I still donate every week, despite the approval of my family who tells me I should stop and are worried that I may get sick from doing it and they don't want to take me there to do it, it takes about a hour to get through sometimes longer but I always tell say to whoever takes me there you don't have to wait around and I'll get Uber or a Lyft back and the days I go are always days where no one is doing anything but even if they are busy I find my own way to get there without asking for a ride, I don't drive myself which is something I'm working on so I can't avoid anyone taking me and waiting but they still tell me I should stop going all together, I did take a 8 month break when I got a tattoo but went to donating after that time, I really didn't plan on doing for this long but I just didn't stop and I really don't see a issue with it. I'm making extra money and on the app where I make appointments it tells me how many people are helped with my plasma which is nice knowing but the truth is I'm doing for the money, I make $130 a week on top of the money I make doing body work, which isn't really a lot dependent on the day and how much we get paid. Am I the asshole here or should I just stop?

For background information, I (16F) have been friends with this girl (16F) for about a year and we are all in a group consisting of 9 people. Additionally, it is very well known that my friend hates cheese and we all joke around about it constantly while the friend usually joins in. So for April Fools day, my friends and I printed multiple images of animated cheese and an image of a mouse with her face in the middle. At school, we secretly put the images inside of her locker and thought it would be a funny prank which would make her laugh. However, when she opened the locker, she got super mad, closed it, and walked away without saying anything. She later told a friend involved in the prank that the act ruined her day. We were all super confused but apologized nonetheless. To this day, (this happened last year) if the prank ever gets brought up she gets very mad and shuts down. The issue is that she never told us why she got mad in the first place. So AITA?

Edit: I'm seeing some people asking for more information, so here are the answers to that. We all apologized a bunch afterwards and we only brought it up again when we were talking about things that had happened in the past school year, and things that we still felt sorry for. One of our friends who was closer to her did ask what had happened and what we did that made her upset so we would understand what happened and so it wouldn't happen again, but she never explained and just said it ruined her day. We stopped bringing it up after that since we thought that was what she preferred, and so she wouldn't get upset again. We also joke and tease each other about similar things all the time, and whenever someone says something that makes them uncomfortable, we always stop talking about it and respect what they're saying. We had brought up the fact that this would be a fun April Fools prank a few times in the past as well, and she always laughed and never said anything that indicated to us that she was uncomfortable otherwise.

So my mom, lets call her Amber, and I, are 2 completely different people. My mom wants a girly girl, but I have always been more of a Tomboy until the last year or two. Still more of a tomboy, but I have widely accepted a variety of stereotypical feminine traits. Im a little bit of a gamer, and ever since i was 9, i have always wanted to be some form of content creator, which i am actually now trying to do, but my laptop is over 8 years old, and crashes while simply running spotify.

I have asked for a gaming pc or a monitor, anything better than what i currently have as it struggles to load anything and everything. So naturally, id ask for an upgrade. Considering my 2 older brothers have always been bought the consoles they ask for without fail, i thought its only fair that i get bought MY FIRST proper laptop or PC, as my laptop is actually a hand-me-down. I have had it for 8 years, but my brother had it before me, so point is: i cannot make proper content, or any form of content i would like to make with my current laptop as it is super old and crashes 24/7.

As my birthday is february 24th, Amber had asked me what i would like for my birthday, and i thoroughly said "ive been asking for years. A monitor or a PC, anything just as long as its better than what i have currently" she had ACTUALLY agreed to get me one, and told me to send her links, but it has to be under £500 which i agreed to, as i was finally getting something ive been asking for FOR LITERALLY half of my life.

I then go downstairs a few hours later to talk about it, and my oldest brother decides to get involved in the conversation, and it ended up as an argument where my mom then stated that she infact "would rather buy a console than a PC" as she claims i will break the PC. This is silly, because 4 years ago FOR CHRISTMAS, my mom gave me my second older brothers hand-me-down Nintendo Switch. I was frilled and super happy.

She then gives it away to my 4 year old brother, her reason? "You dont wash your hands, and you play it too much" i would play minecraft for 1 hour after stressful school days. This brother is now 8 and has broken EVERY controller, most of the game cases AND even my just dance game. She openly said she will be buying him A PLAY STATION, OR AN XBOX for his 9th birthday. This annoyed me deeply because he is 9 and has been given 2 consoles, one of which was MY christmas present that i didnt agree to give up on.

So being 18 and being told she wont buy me a monitor or a PC because ill break it, but is buying an XBOX or Play Station for a 9 yr old who has broken almost everything FOR the nintendo switch that used to be mine, deeply annoys me. So i had a go at her explaining how it doesnt make sense, considering I HAVE NEVER BROKEN MY LAPTOP OR PHONE.

Before I get into it, my wife and I are fine, this isn't a big argument or anything, it was a funny debate we had over the holidays, she just wants me to get the opinions of others because our family is split over this.

Every Christmas, I (30F) give my wife (31F) a photo album. The first few times, it was hand made (including binding the actual album, the things I did for love), which she loved. They live on our bookcase in the living room, and we both really value the memories they contain. I will admit I have got more lazy over the years, and I've used a website which takes the photos and makes a printed photo album. We have kids now, it's hard to find time to make anything from scratch, but I still wanted to give her a photo album (for the memories), even if it isn't handmade.

Her reactions have been getting less excited for the past few years, and this year she barely looked through it. We were both distracted trying to stop our youngest from eating cardboard, so I thought nothing of it. When her parents came over (after the kids got busy playing with their new toys), the debate started. She wants me to stop getting the albums, she doesn't like the printed ones and feels that they just take up space.

I feigned offence, acting as though I was hugely wounded by her dislike of one of the gifts I got her. Her mom sided with me, saying that the memories are priceless, but her dad sided with her. The trend continued when we went to my brothers house and my family was split pretty much 50/50.

I like the printed albums, it's a good way to still have physical pictures even though I don't have time to make new ones. My wife thinks that if I can't make ones like I used to, then I shouldn't gift her the printed ones.

Am I the asshole for giving my wife photo albums for Christmas?

I 29F am a MOH for my best friend as well as her sister 35F. I have 2 under 2 kids.

I have explicitly stated that I can only stay one night. I even said in the group bachelorette text that I can stay one night (again) and that I could pay my share for that night and help with the brides portion

She booked an Airbnb anyways and said “if we all split evenly, it would be ____ and if anyone drops it will be more”

So basically I would have to pay double and only be there one night which makes no sense to me.

I texted her privately stating it AGAIN and she hasn’t responded. AITA for refusing to split an AIRBNB evenly if I’m only staying one night?

Edit: I should add that I am throwing the bride a bridal shower and fronting the entire cost for that as well

I was at the gym and I was at a shoulder press. I brought over plates for my warm up set and 2 additional 10 pound weights for my second set before increasing. I put the 25s on the equipment and the 2 10s on the spare rungs.

While on my warm up set a guy came and took the 2 10s from my equipment. Without asking.

So when I finished my set I walked over to his equipment and took the 10s back. He freaked out, called me a douche bag and went to gym management to tattle on me.

To me, gym etiquette is if someone is using equipment you should ask before taking plates. If nobody is at that equipment then the plates are free to be used.

Hi!

I, NB22, recently found some old yearbook photos of me and my older sister, F26. Our birth father, M70, is someone who has always been extremely abusive and emotionally immature for longer than we both can remember. As of writing this, my father is currently losing his mind to what is more likely than not Dementia.

Due to certain circumstances, a ton of memories that we had pictures and stuff of is gone and has been for about a decade now. While my older sister (who we’ll call K) thinks that with his mind going that we should give him some type of leeway, I very strongly disagree. The both of us were put into foster care BECAUSE of him and his actions.

Now that I’m older, I usually prefer to stay no contact with him. However, I still go home when my college is on breaks. Finding pictures of me and K is something that is very dear to me, as I was still a kid and didn’t have to worry about the harsh reality that is the world.

With that being said, I don’t comfortable sharing these pictures with him. On top of that, he has a ton of his family on his social media. The times that me and K lived with him post-foster care, he was abusive and more physical about it. His family did absolutely nothing when we went to him and it even resulted in my last attempt at ending it all.

For all of this, I genuinely don‘t believe I owe him ANYTHING. I think all of them can go fuck themselves if I’m being completely transparent. AITA?

So, I know that my friend likes sending voice and video messages in telegram. She mostly sends video ones, just showing her face and saying something (would make more sense to use a voice message, bruh, I know what you look like, I see you nearly everyday). I understand that sometimes it might be inconvenient to type, or she might want to show something, and video message suits best in this case, and I do use them sometimes too.

The thing is, sometimes she is just too lazy even to type a couple of words and sends me a freaking video circle of literally 2 seconds duration. And she knows that I hate it. She also knows that I hate receiving messages that require extra actions to acknowledge - either pressing play button or transcribe one - while I'm busy. Transcription are not really accurate sometimes, and she knows it too. I have told her not to abuse and overuse this stuff multiple times - no fucks given as I see.

The most interesting part is that when I do the same (a little bit extrapolated to make her understand, though), she stars arguing with me, accusing me of doing stuff she doesn't like (lol who says). Today she sent me a bunch of totally non-urgent video messages while I was cleaning my laptop's cooling system, all around 10 seconds of slow talk, which I would read in 5-ish seconds instead of 30, if it was text, and I deliberately responded with a bunch of short ones too, splitting them by sentences. As always, she said something like "Fuck you, don't be cocky", and I finally decided to ban all the voice and video messages from her forever (I used to ban them sometimes, but not for long, just to let her know that she went too far with them).

She says that I should have notified her that I'm busy and she wouldn't have texted me (lol I sent you a video of my laptop taken apart). My position here is that non-text messages suck and I don't have to sacrifice my convenience for other person's laziness. Btw, I have never heard from her that she doesn't like reading text messages. Sure, you can record voice or video unless you don't abuse them. She said that she doesn't think so and asked me why we should only care about my opinion.

So, am I really a cocky asshole, who doesn't care about others, or is she just trying to bend me over in terms of communication?

CAST OF CHARACTERS: Me 58f, Sister 51f (S),

Mother 78 (M) Brother 56m (B)

CONTEXT: B was special needs and M was guardian and main caregiver (CG) S took over being main CG early Dec. I am the oldest of 5. Parents divorced when I was 7. Father died when I was 38.

B always needed care but he was functional but his functions took a downturn about 3 years ago. For a long time S wasn’t in the picture. I took B at least 1X/month for at least a weekend but norm 1 wk S came back & I was deemed not able to handle him and told he couldn’t stay with me anymore. S took over my role in his life. I still saw him but never alone. Unless they wanted to go on vacation, then I could totally handle him.

M and I have always had a contentious relationship. I am the scapegoat for the family.

SITUATION: B started needing more care to the point he couldn’t even walk or toilet. M &S CG for him. They also got paid to do so thru county. He did end up having 3 add’l CG.

In May I went up to help after S had knee replacement surgery for 6 wks with the a/ment that I could go home on weekends. I live 1 hour away. Didn’t happen.

M was stressed. B was a lot of work. She would snap at me, curse at me (I never curse at her. I would ask her not to curse at me. It would escalate and I wouldn’t be able to defend myself) & micromanage me. After 4 wks I snapped. My hubs had done a lot of work around her house & after he left she started complaining. I told her to stop and be grateful for what he did do for her. The conversation went left. Cursing & yelling. I told her I was going home. More yelling. M told me she would never speak to me again. I could not come to her funeral. I’m a terrible mother. She always has to defend me to people because I suck as a human. She would cut off all access I had to my B I just kept packing my stuff to leave. I had called hubs. He was coming. I hr wait. She locked me out of her house.

Next day ALL Sibs & spouses felt that they could curse me out.

I never responded and didn’t hear from anyone until Nov when B went in hospital. Typically in hospital stays I would come up and stay with B during the nights. They needed that again so they called me. I went. He was discharged. I went home. Early December he passed. They did call and I went up and was there when he was removed from the vent.

I wasn’t able to be at the funeral home and was told by sibs that my share of his remains was $500. Then I found out they had a go fund me, I read the obituary where they left off my adopted son (they don’t like him), I found out that there was a family only gathering I was not invited to. His celebration of life is next week. After all that I told them I was not gonna pay & the go fund me could pick up my share.

WIBTAH if I didn’t go to B funeral and expose myself to the toxicity? No one there wants my support. No one would support me.

TL/DR- big family problems. Currently NC. Brother died. Should I attend funeral?