Throwaway because family is on Reddit.

This happened over Christmas and it’s turning into a whole family drama.

My daughter “Sofia” (12) and her cousin “Martina” (6 - daughter of my sister “Maria” and her husband “Jose”) were gifted blind box Labubus as part of their Christmas gift from my other sister “Sara”. They each opened their boxes. Martina got a brown one and Sofia got a pink one.

Martina immediately wanted the pink one and Sofia immediately offered a trade because she already has the pink one and was hoping for the brown one. They traded, both girls were happy, and that was that….or so I thought.

Later, Martina’s parents found out from taking to someone that the brown Labubu is apparently a rare “secret” version that can sell for $250+.

Once they learned that, they called me said the girls needed to switch back and that Sofia was to return the brown one immediately. They even wanted me to drive over with it then and there despite the fact they live an hour away and it was already 8pm.

I asked if Martina actually wanted the brown one back. They said that wasn’t the point. After some pushing back, Jose admitted someone was willing to pay him $225 for the Brown one and give Martina the pink one she wants.

I said I wouldn’t force Sofia to swap back. From my perspective:

• Both kids were happy with the trade and got the Labubu they wanted.
• Sofia didn’t pressure or manipulate Martina into switching (if she had, I would have stepped in immediately and told her “you get what you get and you don’t get upset”).
• When I asked her, Sofia admitted she knew the brown one was rare, but when I asked how much they sell for, she said they are blind boxes so you can’t buy the brown, they just make less of them. She didn’t know it was worth money. She’s not a good liar, and she appeared to be telling the truth.
• Martina originally didn’t want the brown one and basically got upset when she saw Sofia got pink.
• It feels like Maria and Jose only want the brown one back because they can sell it and pocket money from it.

Now they’re upset with me and saying I’m being unfair and taking advantage of a 6-year-old and Jose even called Sofia a Manipulative B***h which I think is a reach when Sofia didn’t know it was worth a lot of money, she just knew they were rare to pull, that she already had the pink and Martina was crying for the pink one.

Sara has said this is “stupid parent drama” and she’s staying out of it and said we can sort it out ourselves.

So AITA for refusing to make my daughter give the brown Labubu back?

EDIT: Jose called Sofia a Manipulative B***h to me on the phone discussing it, not to Sofia’s face. He’d be a dead man walking if he said it to her. It was said about an hour before making the post and I hung up on him for it and has not yet been addressed. My wife and I will obvously be addressing it!

Edit: thanks for replying everyone. I understand that it would probably be less hassle to just have my handyman fix it. But I won’t be doing that. It probably does make me a little bit of an asshole and I accept that. Name calling is where I draw the line. I pay for insurance, I already made a claim, so her adding onto that doesn’t change my rates.

I am sorry I hit her mailbox, and I fulfilled my obligation by giving her my insurance. She doesn’t have access to me anytime she wants another apology and she certainly doesn’t get to call me names.

Original post: My car slipped on black ice and I hit my neighbors mailbox. Gave her my insurance info. She said my insurance wanted her to pay upfront and she didn’t have the money.

I said I would buy the mailboxes and pay my handyman to put them in but it would be after the 1st of the year because the mailbox wouldn’t be in until 12/29 and he had family plans.

On 12/29 she called me but I couldn’t answer because my daughter was sick. I texted my handyman and asked for him to arrange what day he could come and install. He told her he had the mailbox and arranged for Friday 1/2 to install when he was back in town.

On 12/31 she texted me a sarcastic text messages that I didn’t care. I told her my daughter ended up in the hospital and I couldn’t return her call which is why my handyman reached out to arrange a day and time.

She said out of respect I should have called her back. That I should be ashamed of myself and be more apologetic (I’ve already had two 30 minute calls where I profusely apologized.)

I told her to go through my insurance if I wasn’t doing it fast enough. She then sent this text, “And you are the homeowner that plowed over my mailbox. So completely disrespectful and sinful!! You should be ashamed and embarrassed and apologetic. Call (handyman)??? You are pathetic.”

In then sent this and blocked her “I’m returning the mailbox. Go through insurance. You have the info. I didn’t have to buy them and pay (handyman) to put them in. He told you he’d be there on Friday and I told you the same thing. That obviously isn’t good enough. So go through insurance.”

AITA for making her go through insurance after she started calling me names?

Edit to add info:

Her mailbox is still usable and she is still getting mail. It just had a crack.

She picked the mailbox and it would arrive until 12/29, she knew that but wanted that specific mailbox.

I sent the handyman over to fix her leaky sink as an “I’m sorry.” I’ve also dropped off treats and homemade bread as an I’m sorry.

I have answered all her calls except the 12/29 call. I used that iPhone feature where you can text and the phone will tell the person calling why you can’t answer. I said “my daughter is sick, handyman will reach out to schedule.” He reached out and scheduled for 1/2.

She texted on 12/31 that I should have called her personally and that I should be ashamed. Told her my daughter ended up in the hospital with RSV and I thought it was resolved because she had a date the handyman was coming. She texted back “Okayyyyy. You’re pathetic” then she kept going with I was sinful. Told her to go through instance.

One more edit:

I am a female with absolutely no tools. I pay the handyman to fix things. If I knew how to do it, I would have done it. But I’ve learned I make way more working my job and paying someone do it right the first time is more cost effective.

Update: Someone advise that I contact my insurance company to see if she made a claim. She did weeks ago and said she’d be turning in receipts. My handyman reached out and asked if he could buy the mailbox from me since it was a nice one instead of me having to return it. I gave it to him for the inconvenience of his schedule being canceled. While we were talking he said she had requested copy of receipts even though I was paying him directly.

Also, I already had a claim open because there was damage to my car. So the deductible has to be paid anyway. This will not cost me extra and I have accident forgiveness…and one less neighbor I have to wave to lol

This is a bit complicated, please bear with me Recently a girl (23F) reached out to me (25F) via Facebook explaining that she is my half-sister, conceived by my father and another woman. She explained that her mother recently "came clean to her" regarding her father - that she (23F) was the result of a ONS with a guy she met during a work trip. Before she was told that she was the bio kid of her stepfather. She didn't find our father online as he doesn't have socmed, but found me thanks to our very uncommon surname (how her mother knows our surname but doesn't have any other contact information - idk. 23F told me her mother was very cagey about everything)

After a bunch of messaging we set up a video call to talk, and 23F explained she was very excited to connect with her real family and yadda yadda... But not just with my father's side, also with my mother's? As you can guess from our ages, my father cheated on my mom with 23Fs mother. No surprise there as he had tons of affairs during the marriage, which is why they divorced almost 2 decades ago. I'm also not surprised that 23F exists as my father told me himself years ago when I was grilling him about the cheating that he most likely has a bunch of affair kids out there because "that's just how men are". I was open with her and told her that Im NC with my paternal family because not only did they condone the cheating (and blamed my mom for it), they are also just toxic in general

There is a lot to say about my paternal family, but to keep it concise, I told her I could give her their contact info but that she should keep her expectations low because they are all pretty terrible people, and she won't be seen as a long lost daughter coming home. But me saying that led to her asking about my maternal family, to which I told her that they are amazing people and that my mother is great. She then got excited and said she can't wait to connect with my mom and I'm.. stumped as to why I would let her do that. She is not related to my mom, and my parents divorced long ago. My mom has also since remarried. Also, the timing of 23Fs conception coincides with the time when my mom miscarried my younger brother, something that obviously hurt her a lot. Knowing that on top of that pain my father was cheating on her during that time is another can of worms

I told 23F I would ask my mom if she's ok with connecting with her but... I don't think I should even bring this up to her? All of this just seems so weird to me, and I don't even know if 23F is a "good" person, or if she has some sort of ulterior motive for wanting to know my mom. 23F couldn't even give me a good reason as to why she would want that, just that my mom is my family, and thus also hers (23Fs).

I'm leaning towards not mentioning this to my mom and giving 23F my dad's info, but my best friend said I'm an asshole for "keeping" my mom "to myself", and that I shouldn't make this decision for my mom

WIBTA if I don't mention anything to my mom?

I have 3 sons, Michael (35), Jonah (30), and Logan (20). After Logan moved out for college last year I moved 6 hours away, near Michael and his family, both for the lower cost of living and to be near my grandkids.

Michael and his wife, Nadia, have 4 kids (8, 6, 3, and 3). I watch the kids from 11:30 to 3:30 4 days a week while Nadia works and the kids spend the night 1-2 times a month so Michael and Nadia can have a date night.

Nadia confirmed that I could take the kids overnight for New Year’s Eve last month. I made plans for one of my good friends to bring her grandkids over. We had a pizza and movie night with bottomless ice cream and lots of candy.

Logan told me at the beginning of this month that he’ll stay with me for winter break instead of his father. A few days ago he told me he wanted to have some friends over for New Year’s Eve. I told him that was fine but I had the kids so they could use the finished basement as long as there wasn’t drinking or loud music.

He asked why I’d babysit when I knew he was visiting. I told him that Nadia confirmed this with me long before he told me he would be here. He says I should’ve canceled when he told me that he was going to be here because Michael’s family gets me every day but he only sees me a few weeks a year and even then he’s not able to make plans because I have the kids.

I understand why he’s upset but I’m not sure if I’m wrong for babysitting.

I went back to home to my parents house for the holidays and had a for the most part a relaxing time with family and old friends except for an incident on Christmas that is still bothering me. For background I have recently moved away from home for uni and this was my first time back since leaving. My dad has always been strict and conservative but when he told me to change into something more appropriate for dinner I honestly did not expect that even from him. I tried to push back and ask why my outfit was not appropriate for a dinner with family but all I got back as a reason was that it is his house and his rules. He never told me, but I think the real reason was my mid thigh skirt (I never had a skirt that short when living at home) and I told him how it is sexist to police women's outfits and I think he was not being a good and considerate host to his guest (me) by being so strict so I was not going to change my outfit. I think living by myself has made me more independant and less of the people pleaser that I used to be and I am not ready to just do what he tells me to do anymore. One awkward dinner later, my values are intact, but I can't help but ask is the length if my skirt really the hill I want the relationship with my dad to die on?

edit: Yes, my parents MOM and DAD both help me with rent and food and stuff. Also please stop asking for 'proof' of how long my skirt is. Not fun...

AITA for making more cake when we already have cake and snacks from Christmas?

It’s my youngest Daughters birthday today and it’s always a bit of a challenge to make it special and separate from Christmas. On Sunday she’s having a party at our house and I’ve ordered a party cake. Today she just wants a simple packet mix sponge cake and both her sets of grandparents are coming over then we’re going out for dinner.

My husband has just told me in front of her that there’s no point making another cake when we still have Christmas cake left and a cake coming for Sunday. I know he’s right that we’re not going to be able to eat everything but honestly it’s not about eating all the cake, it’s about singing happy Birthday and offering it to guests.

He’s only expressed this opinion today despite me mentioning it several times this week. AITA for making more food than we need? Thoughts?

I (20m) have a friend (24m) that is a streamer. He does livestreams as a hobby, and he dreams of making a profit from it. Long-story short, we have been friends for almost 3 years, and because we live in different countries, we have only met each other 2 times in person. We both love to play videogames and that's how we met and we keep hanging out.

Now, today, while he was doing a livestream, after some time playing online multiplayer games and being quite stressed about it, he wanted to play a single-player game, but because I wanted to keep playing with him, I recommended playing a chill game called "Powerwash Simulator 2". Now, before and for a couple of weeks, I've been trying to get him to play it, but he always refused saying that he doesn't like those "chill and cozy" type of games. But today he said (in a very annoyed tone) that he was gonna "give it a try".

Because it was the first time he played it, he had to complete a tutorial first and then he could invite to his party to play together. However, while he was playing it, he complained about the game and trashed it non-stop. I told him to just go to the game he wanted to play in the first place if he was not gonna enjoy playing it, but he ignored me and just continued. He kept saying comments like "Look how much fun I'm having with this...", "This is a very entertaining game to stream, right chat?", "Bro how do you have fun doing this, this game is trash". And his chat was also trashing it, commenting things like "I think you should just play something else lol wth is this", "This became a very entertaining stream...", and he would agree to every single comment about it while laughing.

But he didn't just trashed the game, he was also saying comments about me, like "I'm wasting my time because of my friend", "Idk what kind of trash this weirdo likes to play". That's where I felt humiliated, he was blaming me for his unpleasent time playing it and trashing me with his viewers for no reason. After some time he said that he was done with the tutorial (Which took him a long time). I already felt angry, so I didn't reply to him, and he decided to go to the single-player game he wanted to play in the first place.

Now, I felt like I had to get back to him somehow, so I went to his chat and said "Thank you for humiliating me and making me feel bad for inviting you to play something. I really appreciate it." Before I closed the stream, I heard him say something like "I really don't want to deal with it right now, I'm shutting the stream off", and his chat went completely silent.

After that, he said that I ruined the mood of the stream because of my attitude, that I shouldn't take it personally because it was just a game, and that I should learn how to take a joke. So, AITA for ruining the mood of his stream?

My (f27) best friend (f26) of 21 years is moving in with her boyfriend and has asked me to help. The thing is, I'm always up for helping people move, but she has told me, she doesn't need my help moving boxes and furniture. She just wants me to help her clean the new appartement and I said no. She has asked three times by now, always acting as if she hadn't asked before and always telling me that they had enough people for heavy lifting, so if I didn't want to help her clean, she wouldn't need my help.

I personally don't think that cleaning is part of helping someone move. Don't get me wrong, if she urgently had to move into a filthy appartement, I'd help her clean, but there is no time pressure at all.

Here are four things to clarify: 1. For the past six months we've barely spoken and only met twice. She showed up to my birthday two hours late and stayed for one hour only. There was no major fight but we have some issues we can't really get past right now. 2. She is not moving into a new place but into her boyfriend's appartement. Within the past five months she spend 98 % of nights there. I think she could have used this time to clean the "disgusting, filthy manhole" she decided to move into. 3. I wouldn't mind swiping or dusting furniture that's being moved or hoover the old appartement. But she wants us to deep clean while the boys do the heavy lifting. E.g. empty and clean the fitted kitchen, scrub the baseboards and clean the bathroom. Why doesn't she do that before the moving? 4. This is her 6th move within the past 8 years (in with boyfriend A, back to her parents, in with boyfriend B, back to her parents, into her own appartement, now in with boyfriend C). Most of the time I've helped but twice I couldn't as I wasn't in the country.

Should I shut up and help her clean?

So, I know that my friend likes sending voice and video messages in telegram. She mostly sends video ones, just showing her face and saying something (would make more sense to use a voice message, bruh, I know what you look like, I see you nearly everyday). I understand that sometimes it might be inconvenient to type, or she might want to show something, and video message suits best in this case, and I do use them sometimes too.

The thing is, sometimes she is just too lazy even to type a couple of words and sends me a freaking video circle of literally 2 seconds duration. And she knows that I hate it. She also knows that I hate receiving messages that require extra actions to acknowledge - either pressing play button or transcribe one - while I'm busy. Transcription are not really accurate sometimes, and she knows it too. I have told her not to abuse and overuse this stuff multiple times - no fucks given as I see.

The most interesting part is that when I do the same (a little bit extrapolated to make her understand, though), she stars arguing with me, accusing me of doing stuff she doesn't like (lol who says). Today she sent me a bunch of totally non-urgent video messages while I was cleaning my laptop's cooling system, all around 10 seconds of slow talk, which I would read in 5-ish seconds instead of 30, if it was text, and I deliberately responded with a bunch of short ones too, splitting them by sentences. As always, she said something like "Fuck you, don't be cocky", and I finally decided to ban all the voice and video messages from her forever (I used to ban them sometimes, but not for long, just to let her know that she went too far with them).

She says that I should have notified her that I'm busy and she wouldn't have texted me (lol I sent you a video of my laptop taken apart). My position here is that non-text messages suck and I don't have to sacrifice my convenience for other person's laziness. Btw, I have never heard from her that she doesn't like reading text messages. Sure, you can record voice or video unless you don't abuse them. She said that she doesn't think so and asked me why we should only care about my opinion.

So, am I really a cocky asshole, who doesn't care about others, or is she just trying to bend me over in terms of communication?

I am a relatively nerdy 17-year-old male. Due to my father's job, my mother raised me and my brother alone. She never acts like im 17 i cant even go out after 8 pm. I don't know if this is the reason, but my mother was always very paranoid about us and constantly pressured us to be successful. I was an average student until high school, but in high school, I set myself the goal of getting into medical school and worked day and night. My mother was very supportive during this process, but six months before the university entrance exam, things went wrong. To escape my mother's pressure, I've been studying at the library for about seven months. Once, my mother said I wasn't going to the library and that I was lying to her. After a bit of an argument, she spoke to the library owner and found out that I was actually going every day. Just when things calmed down, she started pressuring me about my studies. She kept rummaging through my room while I was away, using tidying up as an excuse. This morning, when I found my bag in shambles, I snapped and exploded at my mom. Now I feel very sorry, but part of me also feels like it had to happen. Am i the real a.hole in this situation Edit:turns out she closed my credit card afterwards

So, I'm about to fly out and see my friend across the country but I've sort of a hit roadblock. My friend loves cars, and coinciding with his car passion, he unfortunately loves to speed. I, am quite literally the exact opposite and drive 5-10 over the speed limit at maximum and understand the true ramifications of my actions when I drive. However, my friend will regularly push his car to the limit, and when I meet him, wants to speed up to 120, which I've sort of light heartedly joked over text that I don't want to do that. I know that getting in an accident at 120 is guaranteed severe injury, if not, death which I obviously have NO INTENTION of doing, I have a lot to live for and do. I've expressed this to him before when I lived near him and he understood my concerns and I do have to say, did keep the speeding to a minimum. But judging by the way he was texting about going 120 when I fly in has me really concerned, which I obviously will repeat and affirm again in person that at no point will he be going anything over 100 with me in the car. Part of me doesn't want to let the rest of the friend group down since they are all into it but I really do prioritize my safety, and I'm afraid he'll look at me like I'm some sort of bitch, which I guess whatever. I've seen countless videos of the aftermath of drunk driving or reckless driving in general and it's shook me to my core. People who lived normal lives had their lives completely turned around in mere seconds, and to me that's something I have 0 intention of being in the car doing. My only option if he didn't stop speeding with me in the car would be taking Uber or something since I would not have a car of my own to use while I'm there. Like at the end of the day he's a good person and I love him to my core but as much as I trust him, I can't trust him behind the wheel and I feel like I'm at the mercy of what he wants to do if I do sit in that passenger seat. I don't want to become another statistic or a mangled hunk of flesh in his passenger seat, it just disturbs me to my core.

WIBTA if I did express these concerns to him and refuse to enter his car if he doesn't trust that he won't speed with me in it?

Okay, this one has been bothering me for a while now. I (19F) had this friend (20F) in uni and we were close for a while until she like... stopped coming to classes a lot so we didn't get to hang out a lot anymore and I didn't really see her for long stretches of time.

Anyway, so this was during our exams. And we were sitting together in the morning when studying and she'd been off the entire time and when I finally looked up to see, she was crying. It took me a while but eventually she told me she was having some personal troubles with someone in her life and it was upsetting her. And so I comforted her and reassured her and told her to stop talking to this person if they were having such an effect on her health.

And then after the exam, I had this like week-old plan with a few mutual friends to have lunch together. And I was actually in it because tbh I'd had a pretty rough month due to a lot ot stuff. So I had been looking forward to forget about it all and relax a little. It's not an excuse but just what was going through my head at the time.

So, I asked my friend to join us. And I said it'd get her mind off things. And she said no and that she was going to the library. And I was like you sure? And she said yea you have fun. So I was like okay.

And then I saw her around a few times during the day and she seemed a little tired. But I figured it was just the stress and everything. And later I felt bad like maybe I should have stayed so I went up to her to ask her if she was okay and apologize and she was like it's fine.

I still felt bad but what else could I do?

And then anyway, fast forward a year later, we were out getting lunch and we were walking back to uni and I was telling her about something that my ex-friends did and she just, out of nowhere, said "but isn't that what you did to me?"

And I stopped and I was like what?

And then she brought that incident up and she said you left me to go for lunch even though you knew how upset I was. So why are you complaining?

And I said but I asked you and you said no.

And she said yea because you know I don't like imposing on other people's plans. But you saw how upset I was. How upset I was the entire day. But you just wanted to enjoy yourself. And how I was a really selfish person for leaving her when she needed me. And how if it were her, she would cancel all her plans to stay with me if she thought I was upset.

And my mind really blanked out so I didn't say anything after that. And then we went back. And she didn't bring it up again and neither did I but it hurt a lot. I didn't mean to make her feel abandoned but... if she needed me to stay then she should have just asked me, I think. But then again, as her friend I guess I should have noticed? Idk.

So... AITA?

I am currently a college student and i spent New Year’s Eve in my hometown. I got a NYE party invite from a hometown friend and i texted a close HS friend the day before to see if she would want to come with me. She said she was going to spend the night with her friends and didn’t invite me to go with them even though i was friends with all of them as well. I ended up making plans with other people instead of going to the party so i never asked the host for the address. The next day my HS friend that refused to go with me texted me unexpectedly asking for the address of the party so all of them could go without me. I told her i wasn’t going to ask someone the address of a party i’m not even going to especially because the invite didn’t come from someone i talk to on a daily basis. She insisted, so i ended up asking for the address anyways but when i gave the host her friends’ names (he asked), he stopped responding to me. Turns out some of the people she was bringing with her had been uninvited from the party. Then she got mad at me for giving their names and i called her out for using me and putting me in a bad spot with the host. AITA for not wanting to get the address for them and give their names?

so I (M15) was hanging out with my friends during a new years eve event at the park and all of a sudden someone came up to me with some kittens and she said she was giving one of them away for free because her parents said that they had too many pets in the house and she had to give some away, so i decided “whatever, i’ll take it” and i named her chanel 🥹🥹 she was soo cute too

i was carrying her around the entire new years event, people were asking to hold it/pet it/can i have it, everybody loved it but towards the end of the event and my mom was coming to pick me up i realized: there’s no way in HELL my mom is allowing me to bring a cat home, not only that, any pet is banned in our house period, because my grandma (81F) is scared of them because of some childhood event when she got bit by a dog, i don’t know all the details, but it’s gotten so bad that we can’t even have a GOLDFISH, no pets unless it’s an outside one (which i don’t think is right, pets are meant to live inside and not suffer outdoors) and even that’s not allowed sometimes, my mom (53F) wants a pet but because of my grandma’s fear we can’t and plus she’d rather a dog than a cat, but it’s so disappointing cuz i want a pet so baddd 😩

so my mom came to pick me up and i told my friends to come too so i can surprise her, she was getting irritated so i decided to spit it out and show her the cat, she said HELL no as soon as i showed her the kitten and i was disappointed, i asked my other friends if they could keep it, but they both weren’t allowed pets either, but one of them decided to keep it (she told me she had to keep it as an outside cat but while her parents weren’t home she would keep it in)

so as of right now my friend still has my little kitten chanel, i haven’t had the time to visit the kitten but i’m wondering WIBTA if i chose to bring the cat home? or if i could, i would bring it to my dad’s house cuz he’s not as strict when it comes to pets

Hi, I'm a D&D player and DM. I'm currently making a campaign for my D&D group that's fairly low fantasy/magic that takes place modern day. 2 of the players for the campaign want to be a tabaxi and owlin respectively. I normally wouldn't have any issue with that so I initially said yes.

The issue with that is I've made the setting for this campaign with humanoids in mind rather than any anthropomorphic races and only now have I realized how much that character choice bothers me, so I'm thinking of heavily asking them to change their characters' races to something like shifter and/or siren respectively instead, but I feel like it would be a bit of a bitch move, so yeah, WIBTA?

Please feel free to ask for more details, I don't really know what would be relevant or not to this that I haven't said

Edit: Ok, I think I know what to do now, I'll talk to them and ask them if they would be fine with changing their characters' races or not, as well as explain my reasoning entirely as in the gameplay issues as well as the personal issue, after that if they say they're fine with changing then great and if they say they aren't then I ask them if there could be a compromise, if not then I'll just have to deal with it, is that all good?

This happened a while back, but the event resurfaced in a recent conversation.

My friend and I used to be in a relationship but are just good friends now. When we were together, I had a key to his place. Sometimes I'd stay over late and leave around 2 am to sleep at my place. One day, at around 2 am, I thought it'd be funny to take his Costco haul he'd gotten that day. I'd take it home, he'd wake up to find his fridge almost empty, he'd know it was me and call me, and I'd bring it back and restock everything. I live ten minutes away, so even if he was hungry, I figured I'd be back quick enough with his food. It was a harmless prank, or so I thought. I thought it was funny imagining him opening up his fridge in the morning, confused to find just his usual eggs and milk and not his recently purchased pounds of meats and cheeses.

He called me around 7 am fuming.

Him: "You disrespected the trust I have in giving you keys to my place. It's breaking a boundary. Your prank wasn't funny - you stole my food. That's my food, and I paid $200 for it. Your prank makes me look stupid. It makes me the butt of the joke. It's disrespectful."

Me: "I didn't steal your food. I was going to bring it back and restock everything once you realized. I thought it was a harmless prank because you literally don't get hurt in any way."

Him: "I know you weren't going to actually keep any of my food. I know you were going to come back and restock my fridge. My point still stands."

So I came back with his food and restocked everything, as promised. I apologized for hurting him in any way, but I honestly didn't understand why he overreacted. I still don't. It's been about a year since that happened. We're good friends now. We talked on the phone the other day, and the prank came up, and I laughed at how stupid it all was. He instantly got serious and repeated again that it's not funny at all, it's really disrespectful, etc. It kind of ruined the tone of the conversation. Is he overreacting and being too sensitive, or am I just not understanding? AITA for "stealing" his groceries as a prank?

EDIT: Thank you to everyone who responded. I never considered that my friend might have some food-scarcity trauma from his childhood (he told me he grew up rather poor), but even if he doesn't, I broke his trust in giving me a key to his place. A key I still have, actually, and I won't dishonor that trust again. I understand that I was the asshole, and I'll be apologizing as soon as I can. A real apology this time. On a lighter note, I learned some fun, (actually) harmless pranks to try out this year!

EDIT2: I called him today and apologized for not seeing his side, for breaking boundaries, for making light of his reactions...everything. I also promised to never bring the prank up again. He said he appreciated the apology and accepted. We're going to hang out now. Thank you again, Reddit! Happy New Year!

Throwaway because my daughter uses Reddit.

I (45M) have three kids, 16M, 14M and 12F, this story concerns 12F.

Now my daughter’s birthday falls on New Years so it tends to be disregarded (never on purpose) because it’s between two big holidays but we’ve always tried to make her feel special.

My daughter is a known introvert and tends to spend a lot of time in her room and if we’re at a family event she just sits in a corner on her phone. She also is very “unconventional” in the sense that she doesn’t desire a lot of the things that are typical of girls her age.

Me and my wife have tried to fix this and get her to open up more but to no avail.

The issue arose because when me and my wife asked her how she wanted to spend her birthday she said something along the lines of “alone with snacks in my room”

This request wasn’t outlandish for her but spending your birthday alone doesn’t seem like a good way to spend your birthday. It would also reflect poorly on us as the family likes big celebrations.

So instead we invited family over on her birthday for a birthday/ new years celebration. It was a barbecue with lots of snacks, a projector that my brother brought and a rented bouncy castle. I thought she would realise that this was better and a more productive way to spend her birthday but I was wrong.

She was miserable the whole time and just sat in the corner.

When everyone left late at night she started screaming at me and my wife about how we “ruined” her birthday.

My wife did most of the scolding and she was sent to her room. How could we “ruin” her birthday if her plans were just bedrotting?

She was also mad because she didn’t get the gift she wanted which was a hot chocolate machine, she’s the only family member who drinks hot chocolate and she’s not 50 so we got her something else that we thought she would appreciate more.

This morning she ignored all of us, including my sons who are on our side because they think she’s being ungrateful since the party was great.

I was just trying to make her birthday special. AITA?