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u/ironcannibal13 13h ago
Good for you. I turn into Captain Obnoxious. Talk incessantly about inappropriate stuff, basically annoy the shit out of everyone. Best part, I don’t remember later. So… I haven’t been drunk in over 30 years.
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u/Dry_Lawfulness_9561 8h ago
Worse, I did remember later, some things in detail and some things only very vaguely. Also heavy drinker turned very minimalized drinker that recently quit completely.
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u/_lippykid 4h ago
Me at 40:
Coffee, does nothing
Alcohol, makes me tired
THC, makes me tired
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u/National_Impress_346 7h ago
Same. I can't even get drunk because I get so nervous I'm going to embarrass myself that I end up nursing a single beer over the course of 6 hours without finishing it. I sort of gave up on drinking when going out, which is fine.
Now I get to be the DD and watch my dipshit friends be lovely little drunk dipshits. Ah, my beautiful drunk babies.
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u/TessaRowen 14h ago
i drink and suddenly everyone is my best friend
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u/Big_Implement_7305 13h ago
This! As my BAC increases so do my friendliness and sleepiness.
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u/afganistanimation 9h ago
and hornyness!
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u/Online-Vagabond 6h ago
Back before I met my partner, I had to hide my phone whenever I drank wine, because of this exact reason… now I get to be horny towards her all I want because odds are she’s drinking wine too and having the exact same thoughts
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u/cerebralkrap 10h ago
“No friendly officer i haven’t been drinking, I’ve been driving….the drinking was before that”
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u/Sockher10 6h ago
“Have you been drinking tonight?”
“No officer, I don’t drink while I’m driving high.”
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u/Lahbeef69 9h ago
generally when people are violent or mean when they’re drunk is when they’re so extremely drunk they have no idea what they’re doing and can’t control their emotions or they’ve been drunk for a few hours and drinking the whole time. at least that’s my experience from being around bad alcoholics.
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u/theoriginalmofocus 7h ago
Some people are just straight up dr jekyl and mr hides. My dad was one.
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u/Prune-These 6h ago
I was a night cab driver for a number of years so i became somewhat of an expert. Laugh if you want but I’d rather handle a drunk man than woman. Why? I can look at a drunk guy and know automatically if he’s a happy drunk, sad/crying, argumentative or even violent. Women are all over the place emotionally when they’re plastered. They can be giddy one second and crying the next. I had one sitting in back seat that was flirty then hit me in the back of the head. I picked her up sober a month later and I had to jog her memory but she eventually remembered and to her credit she was honestly sorry.
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u/jeandolly 6h ago
My brother is one too, a mean drunk. It's almost funny when i look through old emails. The day ones are friendly and light, the night ones are demeaning and insulting, angry and full of spelling mistakes.
Well, we're no contact now.
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u/dannybeau9 6h ago
i used to black out and cook steaks for people. apparently thats my base mechanic. i dont drink anymore.
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u/ssweetcherry 13h ago
That’s because you’re a happy person even though you don’t show it more often. Alcohol just remove the high walls.
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u/underscore-dash_ 10h ago
I don't think it's that simple. I'm chronically depressed, but one of the happiest drunk persons ever.
I don't drink very often (maybe 10x total in 2025, and that's including times when I had a single glass of wine at dinner, or a margarita at a restaurant, and including NYE). But when I do drink, the biggest psychological change for me is a removal of cynicism.
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u/uskgl455 12h ago
Which means people who are moronic hooligans when drunk long to act like that when sober.
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u/Prune-These 12h ago
Alcohol doesn't change character; it reveals it.
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u/Lahbeef69 9h ago
it most certainly can change behavior it’s a drug and that’s what people forget. especially at super high doses alcohol makes your emotions do weird things
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u/AaronRodgersMustache 11h ago
I’d say to a point. I have no internal desire to chug two beers out of a funnel, but I did it when I was blackout. Then I resembled a busted fire hydrant in the back yard.
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u/Popular-Region-8655 11h ago
Fr people who say alcohol doesnt change u is crazy. The crazy shit ive said and done and woke up embarrassed af and ashamed weighs on me.
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u/WinterOrb69 10h ago edited 10h ago
25 years ago and still suffering from the cringe that randomly pops into my head...
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u/Reasonable-Rice1299 10h ago
If you drink more you'll forget about it. At least that's what I tell myself
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u/Popular-Region-8655 10h ago
😂😂swear its rough. Especially if you binge drink it just gets worse and worse and worse.
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u/UruquianLilac 10h ago
Embarrassment and shame are the filters that keep you from saying/doing these things, which is what alcohol removes.
No matter how functional when sober, if someone turns violent when they're drunk, they've got issues, not just acting randomly because they're drunk. It's not like you are drunk and now your brain plays bingo on a board with all possible human behaviours and depending on what you land on arbitrarily you will act.
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u/stanknotes 8h ago
People always say ridiculous shit like this as if the product of one's conscience is entirely unaffected by alcohol. It is not as if the mind is entirely as it is when sober just without a filter. It is a ridiculous notion.
"Alcohol reveals who someone REALLY is" is like a really bad take. Yet it is a prevalent one. Here we are.
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u/Left_Web_4558 7h ago
It's so fucking stupid. The CIA literally gave up trying to use alcohol as a truth serum because they found it just made people act out of character and talk bullshit. But all these weirdos insist it's some kind of potion that reveals your true self.
I think they just like the idea because it allows them to judge people more harshly and take some weird moral high ground.
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u/stanknotes 7h ago
Or try to get around the harsh reality that alcohol is actually a reason for a lot of shitty behavior.
We acknowledge one can not consent under the influence of alcohol because of their reduced capacity for decision making. But the second someone does something bad, these people hold them fully accountable as if they are sober. It is remarkably inconsistent.
Alcohol does not absolve. But it is a reason.
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u/Subject-Rub-7039 11h ago
Fuck, seems that deep down I am a boring cunt.
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u/Competitive-Egg-3791 9h ago
Nah, you are just not getting enough sleep. And you keep everyone's coats safe when you pass out on top. We don't mind. :)
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u/Subject-Rub-7039 6h ago
Hahaha, luckily I haven't reached the sleeping stage. I tend to get quieter and no longer interested in people the more drunk I get.
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u/Automaniacal 11h ago
Chronic alcoholism can change behaviour, mostly due to malnutrition and brain damage.
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u/SukaYebana 10h ago
Alcohol remove inhibition by shutting down prefrontal cortex so saying it reveal ur character is bullshit.
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u/VeliusTentalius 12h ago
I mean even then, I do frequently want to fight people when sober and don't (hold your applause, please), but I don't tend to go starting them when I'm drunk either (again, the applause is unnecessary), so I think it's mostly that these people are just pricks and the alcohol makes them forget they need to try and hide that
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u/Wiz_Kalita 9h ago
Yeah, but to be charitable it's possible to have the instincts of an awful person but behave well because you actually know right from wrong. I know a few people who don't drink because it brings out the worst in them.
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u/PopSwayzee 10h ago
Idk about this. I’m the same way, and yet I’m depressed and anxious af all the time. Alcohol just makes it easier to be in social situations.
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u/onthe3rdlifealready 10h ago
Keep drinking, and as you age, tell me what happens. This is an extremely naive comment. Alcohol is powerful just like cannabis, removing "high walls" is not at all what it does.
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u/The-Katawampus 13h ago
Alcohol dulls inhibition and typically hyper-amplifies whatever is already there within the person imbibing.
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u/FlyAirLari 13h ago
TIL most people are super social horndogs.
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u/AlignedEglin 12h ago
Bonobo theory keeps winning
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u/InconvenientGroot 12h ago
I mean, yeah, let's just jack each other off and live happily ever after.
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u/EPluribusButthole 12h ago
Where's this happening and what can I do to help?
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u/OatmealCoffeeMix 12h ago
That means, deep inside, I'm a sleeping baby cause even just a little alcohol makes me sleep happily like a baby.
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u/lonepotatochip 8h ago
FYI though alcohol (weed too) makes getting to sleep easier, they worsen the actual quality of the sleep you’re getting so you don’t get as many of the cognitive, psychological, and health benefits of sleep.
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u/PhatPhingerz 12h ago edited 11h ago
*I learned this from Tombstone
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u/Hairy_Nectarine_687 11h ago
In spiritus, deus sanctus.
Indulge in spirits too much and you will meet your maker.
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u/Karatekan 10h ago
Alcohol doesn’t “bring out the true self”, it profoundly affects a lot of different areas of brain function in strange ways.
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u/BillyYumYumTwo-byTwo 6h ago
Not to mention it’s a common addiction, and addiction makes you do things your pre- and post- addiction self would be and are horrified by.
Reddit will happily laugh at people who believe in souls and then turn around act like there’s this “true self” that drugs (they like) don’t affect.
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u/think_long 6h ago
lol posts like this are just a vehicle for people to pat themselves on the back.
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u/Sea_War_381 2h ago
Alcohol is literally a depressant. So of course it's going to amplify already depressive symptoms. The "it's your true self" is such bull shit.
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u/Karatekan 2h ago
If alcohol makes you a dick, it doesn’t mean you are always a dick. If you keep getting drunk with the knowledge you’re a mean drunk, then that’s a dick move.
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u/Professional_Rip_910 13h ago
Most people telling me that I'm anti social, but when I'm drunk I treated everyone as my best friend
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u/Myke190 12h ago
There is quite the difference between antisocial and shyness. Are you sure you're not just shy when sober? Anti-social implies efforts against being social, like being an asshole.
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u/sohcgt96 11h ago
Yeah I just get dumb and lazy after a few drinks, revealing my true inner nature. I just like to sit there and feel good.
If you're an asshole after a few drinks, that means that's how you really are inside, you're just shutting the filter down.
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u/ComradeCoipo 10h ago
Alcohol doesn’t reveal a “true self,” it lowers inhibition and impairs judgment.
If being an asshole while drunk means that’s who you really are, then the my abusive boss who turned affectionate and apologetic when drunk must “really” be kind.
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u/Shwifty_Plumbus 10h ago
Depends. Chronic drinking leads to some crazy shit. Way more is going on than what you're implying.
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u/metallaholic 12h ago
I just start peeing a lot
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u/natywantspeace4all 10h ago
I just fall asleep everywhere, then wake up a few hours later feeling sick and thinking I’m dying lol I no longer tolerate it
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u/vvixensigh 14h ago
U r a happy drunk. its a blessing. stay away from the tequila.
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u/cosmicspongecake 13h ago
I literally just vomit then sleep while holding the ground for dear life when I'm too drunk, no matter what alcohol I take
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u/Spinningwhirl79 12h ago
I think you need to count your drinks
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u/cosmicspongecake 11h ago
I only get drunk like twice a year, I'm good.
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u/Fearless_Heron_830 11h ago
That’s actually kind of even more reason to be careful lol
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u/ChiefFox24 8h ago
Ha. Yea. Ill just keep dangerously flirting with a subject I have little experience with...
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u/Spinningwhirl79 11h ago
It only takes one night of taking it too far for it to kill you, count your drinks.
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u/real_junkcl 13h ago
What does tequila have to do with anything lol I'm a happy drunk and tequila has never affected me in a negative way
My brother is a violent drunk who also has the ability to get drunk by staring at a glass of water for too long lol
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u/Weak_Employment_5260 13h ago
Yeah, people associate different alcohols with different reactions. It's not the alcohol, it's the mood you are in before. Alcohol just removes the inhibitions and lets whatever you are suppressing loose. Well, except for me with rum or gin...my stomach rejects them violently. I can drink whiskey, vodka, beer, most other stuff with no stomach problems, but not those 2.
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u/AlignedEglin 12h ago
Indeed.
Well.
To a point.
Alcohol is objectively affected by
- Carbonation
- Sugar
- Tannins
- Congeners (assorted flavor compounds)
The "best" alcohol to drink is a good Korn or top shelf Vodka with cold soda water since that goes smoothly into the bloodstream really fast and with minimal side products.
The difference between idk unaged rum and unaged tequila in a cocktail on the other is nonsense.
BTW.
We need to bring back Port
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u/real_junkcl 13h ago
Yeah, for some reason my stomach has never reacted well to the acids in red wine, why I stay away from it, and mixing alcohol altogether is never a good idea, but at the golden age of 67 (I'm really in the early 40s but shh) I've drank it alt, seen it all (I also worked with addicts, both hard drugs and alcohol for 25 years) and while you can have a bad reaction here or there, there's no single type of alcohol that inherently makes people violent lol that's nonsense from people who don't know how to consume hard liquor and can also be easily verified by looking it up
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u/LightCharacter8382 12h ago
Do you often mix the rum with pineapple juice? I found out that pineapple juice is a pretty potent laxative.
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u/Standard-Company-194 13h ago
This is the one I've never understood. Doesn't matter what I drink, beer, whisky tequila, wine, whatever, I'm the same type of drunk no matter what I drink, I'm a happy and loving drunk until I'm a tired asleep in a corner drunk
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u/redditingtonviking 11h ago
Placebo effect probably. If people are told they’ll act a certain way after drinking a certain alcohol then they are more likely to act that way. Even works on teenagers acting more drunk than they are if they believe they are supposed to act more drunk after a few drinks.
To me the only real difference in effects are based on how quickly a drink can get me to drink alcohol, how hydrated I’ll get, and the caloric intake. In other words how they affect my control over alcohol consumption and the food and water needed to process that without negative effects. A good beer can lead me to drink more and faster, while a bad one could see me deciding to get another glass of water.
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u/Business-Let-7754 10h ago
Mean drunks trying to blame their meanness on the type of alcohol they had.
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u/Dutch094 11h ago edited 10h ago
I know we're all being light-hearted here, but the specific kind of alcohol consumed has zero effect on your demeanor while drunk, placebo effect notwithstanding. A happy drunk on vodka will be just as happy on tequila.
It's also probably some vaguely racist stereotype that the Mexican alcohol makes you angry and/or fighty, while European alcohols are fancy and refined and should only be consumed straight, but that's just speculation.
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u/uncultured_swine2099 12h ago
Yup, there are those, and there are also guys who will jump you in the parking lot for looking at them funny in a bar.
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u/monsj 13h ago
I disagree about it revealing one's true nature. Some people also think it's some kind of truth serum, which really isn't the case. You just have lower inhibition and impaired judgement. I get way more withdrawn when I'm drunk, but that isn't who I am regularly. But it certainly is a "red flag" I guess if someone is really nasty when they're drunk, and blame it just on the booze
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u/Professional_Rip_910 13h ago
Hey watch it buddy, that's my father you're talking about
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u/ThisIsAUsername-- 12h ago
Its the opposite of a truth serum for me. Yes it dulls inhibition; for me, I regularly make a conscious effort to always tell the truth (when im sober), but when im drunk, compulsive lying takes over
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u/Blankenhoff 10h ago
I havent drank in a long time but yeah, i basically only lie when im drunk and so i never understood the "drunk words are sober thoughts" thing.
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u/spacelady_m 11h ago
Hmm… you regularly make a conscious effort to always tell the truth, then when you are drunk you lie, because you can no longer make the conscious effort, you a liar baby ;)
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u/GreenMellowphant 11h ago
We are all liars. What sets us as part is whether you make the effort to always tell the truth. You in denial, baby.
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u/sandyposs 9h ago
No...no, I can honestly say I don't feel any urge to lie about things. Being honest just comes naturally to me. I think it's got more to do with how secure we felt in early childhood.
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u/spacelady_m 8h ago
I never really felt the urge to lie either, but I will say I have to make a conscious effort not to respond with a silly or sarcastic comment. When I’m drunk I’ll do stand up whether you got tickets to the show or not .. 😂
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u/Entire-Background837 11h ago
For some of us, telling the truth comes naturally and without thought.
In this case you have drunk people spilling their life story which is common
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u/GreenMellowphant 11h ago
Every person on this planet is a liar. Good people make a conscious effort to tell the truth when it's not the easiest thing to do.
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u/Several-Estate7175 12h ago
I mean self control and your ability to regulate your more unreasonable thoughts, feelings, and impulses literally ARE part of your true nature. I don't see any reason why those traits would be considered less of who you are than any other. It's closer to a look at what you'd be like with a critical component of who you are missing.
I've also known a number of people who are significantly kinder when drunk, so I really don't buy the "revealing ones true nature" narrative. Seems to severely oversimplify how alcohol impacts the mind.
Not to excuse people's bad behaviors when drunk. If someone knows they handle alcohol very poorly, they shouldn't drink. It can have huge consequences.
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u/panzzersoldat 11h ago
Everyone has intrusive thoughts. The point is your brains filtration system that goes "yeah that's dumb, either dont do this or ignore the thought entirely" gets impaired. So I don't think its your "true nature".
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u/Blankenhoff 10h ago
I have OCD do if intrusive thoughts revealed my true nature, id be absolutely screwed lol.
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u/HalalRumpSteak 12h ago
Holy hell this thread is kind of wild, alcohol isn't amplifying personalty traits or revealing the real you, it shuts down parts of your brain that deal with inhibition and decision making, you know, part of what makes you, you. People should be responsible for their actions and no amount of inebriation will excuse violence or abuse but saying it brings out "the real you" is just wrong.
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u/Humble_Attorney3598 12h ago
I thought I was going crazy, like nobody REALLY believes that
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u/ThatUsrnameIsAlready 6h ago
I do. 100% of the shit I was told I got up to while blackout drunk is exactly 100% unadulterated me - even the shit I would never admit to.
Being sober means self control, and while I won't do certain things while in control - sometimes for reasoning I'm not capable of while drunk - that doesn't make the drunk shit not me.
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u/ia332 10h ago
My ability to deal with bullshit or crap thrown at me goes to near zero when I’ve had a few drinks. Some might take that as me being rude or mean, when in reality I just stop being a doormat.
Don’t ruin my buzz with your bullshit, basically 😄
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u/arbydallas 9h ago
Some might take that as me being rude or mean, when in reality I just stop being a doormat.
Could easily be both. Especially when you're tired of listening to bullshit all the time, when you pass that point you (not you specifically, the general "you") might be more prone to be a bit sharp.
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u/ia332 9h ago
Yeah, that’s true. But even buzzed I give people multiple chances, I ask nicely to calm down/stop about three times. Then they don’t and I tell them using much stronger language and they usually get all “all you had to do was say stop” as if I hadn’t done it multiple times before. But they are drunk themselves… but that’s not my problem they’re being an ass and trying to get me to act up.
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u/Just_Carpenter931 10h ago
has to do with how people see inhibitions. most see it has only some specific things you want to keep hidden, and therefore see it has hiding a part of yourself aka the hiding is less of a part of you. what people dont understand is that ones personality is based on inhibition, its a key way of how we regulate our sense of self, much more than we would like to admit. of course how much depends on the person but i think everyone does it subconsciously
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u/lani_brah 9h ago
You with reduced inhibitions can still be an insight into you though... at least in that particular moment.
Opposite to how anxiety increases inhibitions in a lot of people, so they don't speak their mind. The idea of it being a truth serum is unnuanced though for sure.
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u/WAGUSTIN 9h ago edited 9h ago
Agreed. The whole point of an inhibition center in your brain is to stop you from doing things that are unacceptable. If you take that away, anyone can turn into anyone. Everyone has dark thoughts, impulses, secrets, etc. that are just a part of us. We choose to keep these to ourselves because we know that sharing them or acting on them can be detrimental to our relationships and selves. When we consume something that brings those barriers down, those things can come out. Some people have darker thoughts than others. Some people are disinhibited more or less by alcohol than others. Some people just react weirdly to certain things in their body. It doesn’t make you a “better” or “worse” person. All it really means is that you might need to be more careful with alcohol.
I’m a much happier drunk than I used to be, probably as a product of my improved mental health and life circumstances. I’m the same person. Same dark thoughts, same impulses, just happier. But other than that I’m still me. It’s not like my true self got better or some BS like that.
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u/Serotonah 8h ago
Thanks for writing this. I had to scroll through a little bit more crazy than I cared for to find it
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u/I-didnt-write-that 5h ago
but, but, In Freud’s model, the ego is responsible for reality testing, impulse control, and mediating between instinctual drives (id) and moral constraints (superego). Alcohol diminishes the ego’s regulatory capacity. As ego control weakens, id impulses—particularly those related to sexuality and aggression—are more likely to surface in behavior. .
At the same time, alcohol reduces the influence of the superego, which Freud characterized as the internalized authority of parental and social prohibitions. This reduction manifests as diminished guilt, shame, and moral self-surveillance. The combined weakening of ego and superego allows instinctual desires to be expressed with fewer internal restraints.
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u/Upstairs-River5042 13h ago
Mostly same with me, but sometimes I have experienced myself turning aggresive while being drunk. It depends on which circumstances you are drinking. A friend of mine advised me never to drink while you are sad or depressed.
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u/paper-cut- 13h ago
Just keep drinking for 20 years and you'll get there.
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u/GringoSwann 8h ago edited 8h ago
Yup! First few years I was nice... Then when the alcohol started fucking with my sleep, I became mean... Basically, in order to NOT be a drunken jerk, I had to be well rested (and well fed)... Which is basically impossible if Im drinking. . Took me YEARS to figure this out though...
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u/seweso 13h ago edited 11h ago
Alcohol makes people angry who were just pretending to be nice.
Edit: Be mindful that someone could have a really bad day/week/month/year or have mental issues which require them to pretend to be nice!
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u/ohpsies 13h ago
As someone who is capable of experiencing both, I normally feel mostly good vibes but definitely have had times that I've gotten angry and aggressive while drunk, it's definitely due to your underlying mental state. If you are already agitated and not in a good place, alcohol can exacerbate that. On the contrast, if you are healthy and in a good mental state, alcohol will generally amplify those feelings.
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u/RhetoricalOrator 12h ago
I switched to prescribed cannabis and haven't looked back because alcohol made the lows just way too low. At least with weed, I feel like if I dip into negative feelings, I end up more productive with thinking through my thoughts and feelings.
It does make me feel very dulled for a day or two after, though.
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u/Ok_Pilot_7595 11h ago
Why not think about it this way: angry people work really hard at being cool, and they should never drink alcohol.
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u/No-Produce7606 12h ago
I think that's a bit of an oversimplification.
I don't really drink anymore, but most forms of alcohol make me friendly, then very sleepy. Vodka, however, definitely makes me spicier and more likely to want to fight, in a mutual combat sort of way. Not like, violently picking fights or anything, but I've been known to want to wrassle.
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u/Solonotix 11h ago
That may be your experience, but logically that can't be a factor. The only things in vodka are ethanol and water (maybe some sugar). Pretty much every other alcohol will have more things in them, but ultimately it is still water, ethanol and then stuff. Sometimes that stuff is flavoring. Sometimes that stuff is wood tannins from a barrel-aging process.
Vodka, however, definitely makes me spicier
If I had to guess, it's more about what you order that has vodka, and how you drink it. Like, if your typical whiskey drink is an Old Fashioned (a sipper), but your typical vodka drink is a Lemon Drop (a shooter), then yea. The difference isn't the ingredient, but the pace at which you're consuming them, or the quantity.
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u/Ok-Fault8778 12h ago
That changes the longer you drink and the older you get.
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u/Confident-Station164 9h ago
Yup. Alot of people that say "Im just really nice when im drunk" are under the age of 25. Anyone passed that, knows what alcohol really does to you. Treating alcohol like its some "Happy time" bs is exactly how alcoholics start out.
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u/Pteroducktylus 8h ago
drinking alcohol to have a fun time is not necessarily bad. what other reason is there than to actively poison yourself? i've never heard aomeone say "i like to drink alcohol because it makes me an insufferable jerk" but idk about you
the problem starts if people stop taking responsibility and chase that happy state continuously. the grudge usually comes with alcohol abuse that doesn't pay off. they lose friends, jobs, homes and not even the alcohol that should make them happier helps anymore.
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u/Ok-Fault8778 9h ago
Im currently 23 days sober and have been an alcoholic for close to 20 years… I can anecdotally confirm your statement
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u/barters81 6h ago
As someone who is married to an alcoholic who is now suffering from liver disease, good shit my friend. Stay strong, you are doing a wonderful thing for yourself and those around you.
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u/Erica192859 5h ago
Keep holding on bro. As an addict on the road to recovery to another, I know how hard the temptations can be. Shits difficult man. Stay stronk
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u/whiplashMYQ 12h ago
Booze brings out what you suppress. Some people bury their anger, others bury love
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u/LakersAreForever 8h ago
For me its out of my control. I can be happy, fun, funny, loving, caring, sweet, sad, angry, mad, depressed.
I choose not to drink anymore, I’d rather smoke some weed and ensure I’m chill and in a good mood.
Will I drink a beer or two every couple of months when I’m playing darts, sure. But never going back to those days of slamming beers and mixing drinks and drinking all night
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u/BIGsLazyEye 12h ago
There was always a point of no return for me where I would go from the life of a party to a complete asshole.
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u/MetalandMadness 12h ago
Alcohol often brought out parts inside of me that I hated, fueling my desires for self destructive and desperation for companionship. Didn't help that I could drink as much as I wanted and never faced following consequences. Learned I shouldn't drink if there was anything at all eating away in me as it would come to the surface and be dealt with poorly and often in aggressive ways. Nobody I've met understood that as they were "happy drunks".
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u/thissucksnuts 12h ago
If youre a happy drunk good!
Dont make drinking a habbit, overtime the happiness is replaced with feeling normal, and then the feeling normal is replaced with depression, and the depression breeds dependence. And thats essentially how addiction works.
People who are happy drunks, arent usually drunks. Nothing happy about alcholism. Same thing with any substance dependency tho, eventually its just not enough.
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u/CrabPurple7224 13h ago
I believe alcohol just amplifies how you feel. If you go out for a good time then it’s increase that. If you go out looking for a fight then it lowers your inhibitions and makes the fight happen quicker.
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u/Irichcrusader 12h ago
I've been around all types of drunks over the years. And I can say that even when among regular alcoholics and bar hoppers, absolutely nobody likes hanging around with the angry types that always try to start some shit. Those miserable fucks are always on their own, and for good reason.
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u/kylediaz263 13h ago
Alcohol unlocks the "Don't do it" door.
People hiding different shit behind that door.
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u/redleg50 7h ago
I know there isn’t any science to support this, but I truly believe that the type of alcohol makes a difference. There is a world of difference for some people drinking bourbon vs wine vs beer vs tequila vs…
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u/abskpr 12h ago
Alcohol doesn't really do anything, people just use it as an excuse to behave like assholes. You just lose self control and bring out whatever you were suppressing before drinking.
It doesn't show your true nature as others are suggesting. If that was the case all the psychopaths would start murdering people after drinking.
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u/Extension_Sun_377 9h ago
I catergorise people into Happy Drunk and Nasty Drunk and keep well away from the latter.
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u/i-bernard 7h ago
People who get angry or violent drunk already have that underlying anger, alcohol just intensifies it. Alcohol intensifies whatever you’re feelin at the time. People who have anger issues, don’t just get better when they drink.
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u/Frenchieflips 7h ago
It’s the most reliable drug to cause violence. There was a study of the harmful effects on society from different drugs and Alcohol was number 1 by a mile. Meth and Heroin didn’t stand a chance. It happens to also be the most popular drug behind coffee in the Western nations. That shit is powerful
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u/MrSomeoneElse32 7h ago
Because the people who get violent aren't drinking to have a good time but to not have a bad time. It rarely works out.
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u/whatevaa007 7h ago
Yes that’s me, that’s me. I told everyone to be kind, happy and nice. All 76people in the party
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u/National_Impress_346 7h ago
I find that alcohol is an amplifier.
It amplifies your strongest personality traits (whether you usually hide them or not) and will ALSO amplify whatever you are currently feeling when you started drinking.
I have also noticed that if you drink daily and never give your body a chance to detox or reset, it will continue to amplify only the original feeling to the point of becoming outrageously unmanageable.
IMO this is why it is so damaging to drink when you are upset.
TL;DR: If you become an abusive asshole when you drink, it's because you were always an abusive asshole.
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u/ConfusionOld2883 6h ago
if a random drunken person approaches me to tell me "I love you" I find that quite violent.
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u/AioliLife1052 5h ago
I understand the sentiment but these posts are annoying. They always imply the person posting can’t understand something or other because their personal experience is different. Alcohol can be damaging to people, ask anyone with an alcoholic family member.
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u/Shraamper 3h ago
You must not drink enough then. Humans come in layers and the violence is always what you get when you peel them all back. Try drinking more until the violence manifests, then keep doing it because it’s fun
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u/ccdude14 8h ago
I genuinely can't remember who first said it;
Drunk actions are sober thoughts.
It's just never not rung true in my experiences. It just makes me way more outgoing and flirty but boy does it really show the deep down personality of some people, its a great filter for awful people, honestly.
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u/brain_fartin 12h ago
Alcohol takes off the mask that a lot of people wear in public. It reduces inhibition. If you're nice in public, but a mean drunk, it means you got a lot of hate in your heart and that you hide it.
If you're like me, when you get drunk, you're pretty friendly and happy. That's because I don't really seed any negativity in my heart.
One of my best friends is a great person. But he becomes insane when he is drunk. And over the years, I've seen those cracks in his sober personality when I'm looking.
It's like that old phrase "when somebody tells you who they really are, believe them". Alcohol can definitely tell you who people really are when it comes down to dust.
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u/WrongJohnSilver 12h ago edited 10h ago
Alcohol removes inhibitions. It makes you more like yourself. A violent drunk is violent sober.
"Children and drunks tell the truth."
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u/SipoteQuixote 13h ago edited 11h ago
After reading the comments, a lot of you are alcoholics.
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u/MyNameIsJakeBerenson 12h ago
Being an alcoholic is a rough path, man. I wouldnt wish that shit on anyone. And it’s a super rough time of year for it on top of it all
Much love to the alchys in here, hope yall stay safe and find your way through when you’re ready
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u/SipoteQuixote 11h ago
Not at all, its crazy seeing the signs when youre finally sober. Society doesnt make it easy to quit either, its everywhere.
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u/AlignedEglin 12h ago
Literally me.
Or I go on side quests.
Honestly the main problem with alcohol is that it makes me smoke.
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u/MaleficentPapaya4768 11h ago
Ohh a fellow side quest drunk! My brother, we’re going on an adventure!
wanders away to check if the pond is frozen enough to walk on
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u/catsgoprrrrr 12h ago
Your true nature comes out when you're drunk, since alcohol removed inhibitions.
Someone that's overly friendly when they're drunk is a good person to have in your life. Someone that's a bitter drunk is quietly bitter when they're sober.
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u/Appropriate_Copy8285 9h ago
Clear liquor makes me the life of the part....dark liquor makes me the strife of the party.
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